Turns out Sophia is more like her sister Julia than we thought…

by Susan

Sophia at schoolI’m always talking about how different Julia and Sophia are… but today I had a reminder that they are more alike than I may have thought.

It turns out Sophia is following the same pattern of developing separation anxiety at preschool.

Just like Julia, she was so excited on the first day of preschool that she didn’t hesitate, fuss or cry at all. She ran right in and started playing.

But, the second day, when Olivia was a few minutes late arriving at class, Sophia started crying. And midway through class when Sophia noticed that Olivia had disappeared (she’d gone to the potty without telling Sophia), Sophia burst into tears again.

And, like Julia, the third day of preschool was even worse. More tears throughout the entire time at class.

Sophia is experiencing the same difficult type of separation anxiety that doesn’t just resolve itself a few minutes after the initial separation. Unlike most children who cry for a few minutes at the start of class and then recover, Sophia continues to struggle going in and out of tears throughout the entire class.

She may become engaged in circle time or another activity for a few minutes and stop crying, but as soon as she remembers she’s “alone”, she begins to cry again.

Since Sophia and Olivia only attend preschool on Monday and Wednesday mornings, we’ll have to wait until next week to see how Day 4 goes.

It took Julia about 2 months to get over her preschool separation anxiety but she did eventually start to love school. I hope Sophia has an easier, quicker path to preschool happiness. But, I’ll keep you posted…


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Susan Carraretto and her identical twin, Janice Croze, created 5 Minutes for Mom in 2006. Susan loves all social media, but her top addiction these days is Pinterest. She recently published a children's book titled "The Pest Detectives" which you can download now in digital format for free.

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1 Laurie September 16, 2010 at 1:34 am

I’m so sorry! That’s so hard for mom to handle – it’s heartbreaking! We’ve got a little tender heart like that too. When she was in 2-day-a-week preschool, since she wasn’t there as often and didn’t make friends as quickly as a result, she struggled with this almost until Thanksgiving. It was so hard! But the teachers really affirmed us as parents, and my kiddo eventually made it through.

…of course when my hubs lost his job I then had to switch preschools this year. Back to the drawing board in some ways. But in others, she’s totally better adjusted! Hoping for your little one to adjust quickly too!

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2 Tarasview September 16, 2010 at 10:56 am

Oh Susan, I’m so sorry. I had to leave my Olivia sobbing and reaching for me at school this morning. It was awful.

Big hugs to you.

I hope both our babies adjust quickly.

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3 Deb - Mom of 3 Girls September 17, 2010 at 12:41 pm

Susan, I’m so sorry! I hope that Sophia adjusts to preschool quickly – it’s so nice that she has Olivia in her class too, hopefully that will help. Hugs…

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