What have you accidentally taught your kids?!?
This week at Guideposts, I posted about what I taught my daughter to say.
What Did You Just Say?!
Learning the hard way to watch what we say to kids
“Darn it!” my 21-month-old toddler announced. “Daaarn it…darn it,” she tested out the words, enjoying her latest vocabulary accomplishment.
“What did you just say, Olivia?” I turned in shock to my 7-year-old son. “Did she just say, ‘Darn it?'” Jackson cracked up, “Yes, she did!” Laughing, he encouraged his sister, “Darn it, Olivia, say, ‘Darn it!'”
And Olivia parroted away, “Darn it, darn it, darn it.”
“Oh, no!” I was not happy! “No, Livvie, don’t say that. Jackson—please don’t encourage it.”
I honestly wasn’t sure how Livvie had learned it. I don’t say it that often, do I?
Later that evening, I got my answer. As Olivia dumped her yogurt drink down her shirt, I exclaimed in exasperation, “Darn it, Olivia!” And then I stopped in horror. Oh, my goodness! Not only do I say darn it, I say it to her!
It’s amazing how often we let our bad habits slip by unnoticed until we see them repeated by our children. Suddenly, our little sins aren’t so harmless; they’re powerful and embarrassing!
Some days it’s a good thing that our kids are constantly learning from us. And on other days, we may need to learn from them!
When we hear our children argue, complain, gossip, swear or lie, are they reflecting the model that we present?…