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  1. Jennie
    Jun 02 - 8:13 am

    2 pieces of excellent advice – from my mom of course: 1) Don’t yell at your kids – they don’t hear you when you are yelling – they just hear noise, and 2) Anger is a tool of manipulation and the only one hurt is usually the person who is angry.

    • Susan
      Jun 02 - 3:35 pm

      Thank you Jennie.

      Those are two brilliant and important pieces of advice.

      And yes about the anger thing… I’ve heard it said that holding on to Anger is like trying to hurt the other person by you drinking the poison.

  2. Jackie
    Jun 02 - 1:01 pm

    I think the best advice I’ve been given (and maybe I just made it up myself lol) is that you’re the parent of your child, and no one knows them as well as you. Don’t let other people (no matter their title) make decisions for your kids.

    • Susan
      Jun 02 - 3:36 pm

      So very true Jackie. Our children need us to have confidence in our decisions for them.

  3. Amanda M.
    Jun 02 - 2:01 pm

    The best advice on life I ever got was from my mom. She said that no matter how much you love someone marriage (and relationships in general) take work and you should always give more than you expect to receive.

    Advice is a tricky thing. I think women just like to talk, most of the time and sometimes it comes out as advice or a story, but other times it’s just talk and we take it as something else. I loved hearing stories of other people’s dilemmas and successes when it comes to kids, but I was also very thankful to not have anyone pushing advice on me. I had a friend who was not so lucky when she had her baby and was about to punch someone when everyone was telling her how to breastfeed because no matter what she did, it wasn’t “right.” I think it is important to surround ourselves with positive and supportive people. And see, even right now, I am talking, sharing my thoughts, and giving advice…haha.

    • Susan
      Jun 02 - 3:38 pm

      You’re so right… we women love to talk and share our stories and that is wonderful!!!

      But sometimes it comes out the wrong way, and it’s really hard in situations like your friend’s when it feels like everyone is telling you what to do or not to do and that you can’t get it “right”.

  4. Heather Mundell
    Jun 02 - 3:10 pm

    Best advice (or one of the best pieces I can remember): “Just be yourself”. So easy, yet so hard!

    Worst advice: “You’ll do fine without the epidural.”

    • Susan
      Jun 02 - 3:42 pm

      Ha ha ha… yeah, I never fell for that advice about the epidural. For me I listened to the advice to ensure you don’t miss the window of opportunity with the epidural. You don’t want to wait until it’s too late.

      And yes… the ultimate advice is “Just be yourself”. Profoundly powerful. Sounds so simple, yet is so difficult to carry out.

  5. Kimberly
    Jun 02 - 8:17 pm

    Worst unsolicited advice EVER:

    A older woman I barely knew walked up to me at work, the day I announced my first pregnancy (and I was OVERJOYED). The battleaxe barked…”HAVING MY DAUGHTER WAS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE I EVER MADE…30 YEARS LATER I STILL REGRET IT! MARK MY WORDS, YOU WILL REGRET THIS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! HAVE AN AB*RTI*N!” And with that, stormed away!

    I don’t know how long it took for me to scrape my jaw off of the floor…

    Who does that?

    My son, at 22, has been the delight of my husband’s and my life, and has been followed by 2 equally loved and wanted siblings, neither of whom has been a regret, for one MOMENT!

  6. Barbara Manatee
    Jun 02 - 10:48 pm

    As a Mom and a teacher, I hate to push my opinion on others. I’ll gladly share advice if someone asks me but I almost always preface it with “This is what works for me/us” and not necessarily the best way for you. I hate when people think their way is the ONLY way to do something and only their opinion counts…so I don’t ever want to be that person.

  7. Jacquie
    Jun 03 - 11:45 am

    I think one of the problems with advice is that it is so often based on our personal experience, which may very well not apply to another person’s situation, and that it is often very relative – there are no absolutes. I also agree that the delivery is key to how well your advice will be received – are you compassionate, graceful, caring, tactful, etc.? However, what I consider to be the most important is, does my advice or counsel line up with what the Bible says? Our personal opinions on things are relative, but God’s advice is absolute truth. In some cases, I think it’s important for us to speak up on issues that we have convictions about, in order to speak what we believe to be true, because it’s what God says, even if the message may not be well received. The truth of a message cannot always be judged by whether it was received or listened to, although it is important to speak truth with grace and not with judgment, with the hopes that our delivery will help in the message being received. While this may not apply to receiving unsolicited advice from strangers, I would hope that those who love and care about me would have the courage to give me counsel to keep me from making a bad mistake or doing something contrary to God’s ways, even if I didn’t like hearing it at the time. So, did I just give unsolicited advice to everyone who reads this??? :)

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  9. Forgetfulone
    Jun 06 - 11:00 pm

    I think the best advice is one of the momisms most of us are familiar with, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” That just about covers it!

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