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The Hidden Costs of Colic

February 22, 2008 by Guest

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fussy-baby.jpgHolly Klaassen runs Fussy Baby, the only website dedicated to addressing the practical and emotional issues related to having a colicky or ‘high-needs’ infant. When Holly is not working on her site, she is playing pretend with her almost 4 year old daughter, or reading books to her one year old son. Holly currently resides in Vancouver, Canada.

The Hidden Costs of Colic

“It’s only colic”, your doctor reassures you. “Just wait a few more months and she’ll grow out of it”. While you’re relieved your baby isn’t suffering from anything ‘serious’, you wonder how you’ll get through the coming weeks and months.

Tami, mom to a 10 year old son and a colicky baby writes, “It was an emotional roller coaster that left me wondering if I’d be able to handle this child, or if I wanted to. I knew I never wanted to get pregnant again…ever”.

Yep, good thing it’s ‘just’ colic.

“During that time, I felt like I was going to lose my mind”, recalls Laura, first time mom. “During the day, he would cry or scream anytime I tried to put him down, and the only way he would sleep is if someone was holding him…I felt trapped in my home because I was afraid if I took him out he would cry and I wouldn’t be able to stop it”.

I bet Laura was relieved when her doctor gave her son a clean bill of health, but that did little to help her deal with the emotional and practical issues surrounding caring for a baby who cried all the time.

With an estimated 16-26% of babies in the United States suffering from colic, this leaves 16-26% of parents dealing with sleep deprivation, frazzled nerves, feelings of hopelessness, and possibly even postpartum depression.

Cost #1: Impact of colic on your family

Whether your baby is crying during the typical ‘witching hours’ in the evenings, or screaming all throughout the day, the impact on the family can be overwhelming.

The needs of any older children typically are put second to the needs of their screaming sibling. I mean, how can you concentrate on helping your child work on math problems, or focus on playing pretend with your preschooler with your newborn screaming mercilessly in the background?

Never mind spending quality alone time with your partner. Nurturing your relationship with your spouse or partner, by necessity, has to come after your baby’s need for attention and comfort. How is a marriage to survive unscathed after months of neglect?

Cost #2: Impact of colic on your emotional health

Whether consciously or not, we expect ourselves, as parents, to be able to always meet the needs of our child. When we have an infant that cries and is often unable to be soothed, we may feel that we have failed at our job as a parent.

This can in turn lead to a sense of guilt, unequaled by any other personal ‘failure’ (as we see it). If we can’t even comfort our own baby, we may feel inadequate, and even undeserving of this little being entrusted to us.

In fact, it has even been shown that having a colicky infant and suffering from postpartum depression are linked. This probably comes as no surprise to you, if you’ve ever had an inconsolable baby.

Cost #3: Impact of colic on your infant’s health and safety

No, colic itself does not cause irreparable physical harm to your baby. But, did you know that inconsolable crying is the most common reason given for shaking a baby, and for infant abuse in general?

When your baby is crying (or screaming, or screeching), the emotions you may experience can be of an intensity you’ve never experienced. It’s our natural gut reaction to try to stop the crying. After we’ve exhausted all the tricks and techniques we can think of to soothe our baby, our feelings of frustration and helplessness may turn to anger or even rage.

If you feel like you’re about to lose control, put your baby in a safe place and take a break.

How to Cope with a Colicky Baby

While there is still no surefire cure for colic, we are definitely moving closer to an understanding of this mysterious condition. Recent research points to colic being a natural, harmless behavior, rather than a medical condition.

Given the impact colic can have, the most important thing you can do is to try to balance the needs of your infant, your family, and yourself, as best you can. Try to rethink the expectations you hold for yourself as a parent. Get support, and take breaks whenever you can. But most of all, be kind to yourself. This is not an easy road.

–Written by Holly Klaassen

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9 Comments

  1. Cher Klosner Lane says

    February 25, 2008 at 1:08 am

    Thanks for this great article, Holly! There is some really helpful information here!
    Cher
    http://www.StardustLullaby.com

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  2. Janice (5 Minutes for Mom) says

    February 24, 2008 at 12:16 am

    Thanks for all your great advice – we really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience.

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  3. Julie says

    February 23, 2008 at 3:19 pm

    My kids are older now, but boy, did I ever put a guilt trip on myself when my babies were fussy and crying. Post partum hit me hard as well. What a great article Holly!

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  4. heather h says

    February 23, 2008 at 4:35 am

    We were told repeatedly my daughter had colic and just to wait it out. As first time parents we didn’t know to check things out if they didn’t seem right. She cried all day, never a break at all and it didn’t fit colic characteristics. With further research on the Internet I found her symptoms mirrored silent gastric reflux. We had to be persistent as our doctor wanted to wait until she was 3 months old to explore reflux as colic is said to diminish often at that stage. Our marriage, lives, and even basic hygiene were put on hold while our little one screamed constantly. Horrible. Please look further if you feel it’s more than colic. Your doctor is a great starting point, but the Internet can sometimes give further information. I found many exhausted and frustrated reflux mommies that were helpful and comforting to me.

    We tried it all, and unfortunately had to use medication to control her reflux. It was a miracle when the medication kicked in a few weeks later–we felt someone traded our baby for a new one! Hang in there, it can be a rough ride. Our now 16 month old is the happiest toddler I’ve ever met, so colic/reflux babies don’t stay surly forever! She is also medication-free. It was tough thinking she would be on medication, but our sanity was fraying. It was the best decision we ever made.

    Here are some things that helped a bit, but overall, medication was the cure for her. I suspect if she had colic they would have worked wonders. Baby’s Bliss Gripe Water, Hyland’s Colic Tablets, acidophilus, keep upright at all times and put head of crib on an incline, no jostling as it can cause a reflux flare-up, don’t feed too much at once–more frequent but small feedings, hold upright when feeding, give lots of physical touch, pacifier helps soothe (sucking action hinders refluxing), and talk to your doctor about using medication and seeing a pediatric gastroenterologist if necessary. We had to go this route, and it changed our lives. Hang in there colic and reflux mommies, it gets better!

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  5. Katy says

    February 22, 2008 at 8:42 pm

    My daughter was colicky. Drove me nuts! I wrote about some ways to cope on my blog http://www.adventuresinparenting.org/2008/01/23/what-do-you-do-when-your-baby-is-colicky/

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  6. Kmommy says

    February 22, 2008 at 12:55 pm

    Same here, I wish I would have known more when my son was an infant. It was really bad, and we had no help. Gas medicine seemed to work better than anything else, though he still had major screaming fits.

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  7. Tara says

    February 22, 2008 at 11:11 am

    Oh so true…I wish I had read this article when my colicky son was a newborn! I ended up with post partum depression and it was a really horrible time for us all! Great article.

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  8. MamaArcher says

    February 22, 2008 at 10:00 am

    It is not a real cure but we found something with our last child that works like a charm!! i call it the colic cure because it saved us!!

    http://www.mamaarcher.com/2007/10/colic-cure.html

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  9. Stacey says

    February 22, 2008 at 9:55 am

    A VERY timely article for me. Many thanks.

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