I LOVE that word. In fact, grace is my life word.
When I have finished my turn down here on this crazy planet, I want my life to have been about forgiveness and compassion.
Because as flawed as I am, and as hard as it is for me to forgive people who have hurt me or who have hurt others, there is nothing I love more in this world than the gift of forgiveness.
Really — forgiveness is incredible. And the most amazing part about offering grace is the gift it is to yourself to give it!
Yesterday, I published a post at Babble’s MomCrunch about Jonah Mowry, a thirteen year old who posted a YouTube video about the pain he was enduring from school bullying.
I expected some of his online haters to find the post and share their opinions about him. And as I responded to them, it reminded me about how the Internet is such an important place to practice forgiveness and compassion.
A place where you aren’t judge by how brand-named you are dressed, nor how you look.
It is so easy to sit behind a screen and judge someone. It is easy to hold on to that pain and some people even allow those emotions to become so overpowering that they use their time and energy to seek and destroy others online. Whether the “victims” are bloggers or kids posting YouTube videos, haters happen and the cyberbullying multiplies the suffering.
And I am amazed by it all — by the judgments being tossed around so easily.
As I said to one of the commenters at MomCrunch yesterday, I don’t care what a person has done — we are all guilty of crap!!! We have all said and done terrible things. Everyone hurts and I want to extend grace and compassion to everyone — because in the end, crap is crap and we all have tons of it in our own lives.
My job on this planet isn’t to judge other people. It is to be responsible for my own choices and for how I treat other people.
I want people to truly HEAR each other and see that inside we are all humans, hurting, broken and guilty.
So, to the blog trolls and the haters, and to all of us who feel those surges of anger and condemnation when we read stories or disagree with opinions, I suggest releasing those negative feelings. We don’t have to agree or even respect other people’s choices. But we don’t need to condemn them and own that negativity in our own lives.
Let it go. We are all human. And the wave of power and peace we experience when we offer grace and compassion is incredible.
Is this easy?!? NO! And I certainly have not mastered forgiving people! I never will. I am still a human being remember?
But, I can strive towards it. I can remember that I will not find any peace by judging someone else.
And on the Internet, where people often bear their souls or shout their opinions, sometimes we need to remind ourselves of that over and over.
Have you had haters or blog trolls attack you online? How do you deal with your own feelings of judgment when you get angry with a blogger’s opinion or conduct?
P.S. And to the haters and trolls who are going to say, “What a pile of sanctimonious crap! Why doesn’t this author stop patting herself on the back and stop judging those who judge?” I say, “Sorry if this post sounds preachy — that is the last thing I want to do! I am the first person to say that I am a messed up, flawed person. And that is my point: I suck. So I am not going to judge you when you suck.”