This review is cross-posted at 5 Minutes for Books, as a part of our Mother’s Day Giveaway, going on through April 30. Read the review to see how to win one of three copies here at 5 Minutes for Mom, but please click over and check out the other offerings — a book a day — at 5 Minutes for Books.
The plotline of Things I Want My Daughters to Know by Elizabeth Noble seems difficult at face value: as Barbara is dying of cancer, she records some thoughts, memories, and advice for her daughters to have after she has gone. Depending on the way it was written, the book could be a four-tissue wiper, or simply a story about how the lives of those grown or nearly-grown young women go on after their mother’s death. I had thought from the description that the story was meant to be more of a family drama than a death-bed melodrama.
I hope I don’t sound callous when I say that I didn’t cry one tear when I read this book. Yes, I got a lump or two in my throat, and objectively the thought of losing a parent is hard — at any age. But as the description of the book alluded, this is really the story of the four sisters. Four young women trying to figure out what it means to grow into adulthood — from the perspective of a teenager, a twentysomething, and two thirty-somethings who are as different as can be. As diverse as their choices and personalities, they all have each other, and they all share their mother in common. From the grave, she is able to tell them things that she couldn’t tell them while she was alive — either because she was too afraid, or because they were too stubborn to listen.
This is basically a year in the life — beginning with the funeral and taking them through that first year. As I read, I realized that it’s not really about one woman’s passing from life. It’s about how we all pass through life, as seen through the young women Hannah, Amanda, Jennifer and Lisa. We pass through childhood, into the testing teen years, into young adulthood where we experience changing expectations of ourselves and others, and then through the many stages of marriage and other relationships where we sacrifice ourselves for those we love.
We could read this book with the intent to dwell on the sadness of a life that was too short, or like the daughters do, we can take the words of this fictional heroine to heart: “Life is short. Even if you don’t get cancer. Even if you die an old lady in your bed. It’s still a blink-and-you-miss-it, ever-increasing-speed-white-knuckle ride” (page 37).
You will see yourself in this novel, in one of these characters. You will see your sisters, your best friend, your husband, your child. Elizabeth Noble writes with spot-on characterizations of people and relationships, and that’s one of thing that makes Things I Want My Daughters to Know a great novel.
The book contains a reading guide, and I think it would spark great book club conversations. You can read the first 60 pages online at Harper Collins using their Browse Inside feature.
Leave a comment on this post to enter to win one of three copies of this book. We’ll announce the winners in next week’s column.
The winner of Empowering Youth is #17 edj.
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Contributing Editor Jennifer Donovan also blogs at Snapshot about life with her tween daughter and preschool son, and is managing editor of 5 Minutes for Books.
I would love to read this book!
What a great contest ~ Thanks for posting!
I always enjoy a good read. My mom, sister and I always swap books amongst ourselves!
i would love to win this prize
I would really love to win this! Sounds like a GREAT book!
Sounds like am interesting and informative read. A tear jerker…maybe, but probably some good info.
Please enter me. Thanks!
This is the exact type of books I enjoy. Thanks for the chance to win a copy!
I probably will cry, but I want to read this anyway!
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i bet i will cry,this sounds good.
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As the Mother of 3 mostly grown daughters and as someone who is called to encourage women to reognize & remember their mothering moments – I would love to read this book.
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i’m a book addict! i would love to read this one! i have two daughters.. thanks for the chance!
I’m in my 40’s, my sister’s are in their 20’s and i have 3 teenage daughters, i think we could all learn something from this book.
I” be looking for this at the bookstore, in the meantime please enter me.
I have a daughter so I’m curious what advice the mother in the story has to offer :).
Please enter me in this giveaway. Thanks!
Sounds like a book I would LOVE!
It sounds like a good read. Thanks for offering this giveaway!
This sounds like the sort of book i (and my book group!) would love to read!
My being both a mother and a daughter (and a sister as well!), makes me relate to the story in this book completely.
This looks like a sweet book…
I am just recently getting back to the little bit of my time that has been lost since I had my baby. I want to start reading again Maybe it will be my lucky day.
I would love this book- and I think I would be the 4 tissue type of reader- but love every minute of it!
I’ve been wanting to read this book-thanks for the opportunity!
interesting reading
would love to read this 🙂
I have to say…if I don’t win, I’m definetly going to have to check it out of the library…I can’t imagine not being here for my daughter…and I think it’s so important to help our daughters grow into women…
I have 5 girls and would love to win and read this book!
As a mother, daughter, sister and aunt to many nieces, I’d love to read this book!
This sounds like a great book. I’d love to win a copy and pass it on after reading it.
Thanx for the contest
I’ll cry reading it. I cry at commercials. I’ve been wanting to pick this book up for some time. I’ve read all her other books.
I’d love to win!
This sounds a like avery interesting book that I’d like to read.
This sounds like a book I’d like to read. Thanks!
intriguing…..
I would love a copy of this book. I have 2 boys and a daughter. I just finished reading Raising Cain so reading a book about girls would be a refreshing change!
I’d love to read this!
I would love to win this book. Thanks for the giveaway.
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Would love this. <3
Id really enjoy this tearjerker of a book! The story sounds awesome!
I would love to read this!
i would gift this to my sister, she would like it.
I’d love to win!
I’d love to win this book for my sister. Thanks for the chance.
I’d like to read it, as a mom, I think about this subject alot. Thanks
I would love to read this book, it sounds so good, like something I would really enjoy!
This sounds like a good read. Please enter me in the drawing. Might be good to pass on to other generations of women in my family when I’m done reading it. 🙂
this could be put to good use!
I’m up for some reading now that all my studying is over! Though since my daughter is only two I may have to reread this one to update the info!
I don’t know if I will cry reading it or not. I used not to but since I had my children I’m very emotional. Not sure if it’s the hormones :)or the wight of responsibility of being a mom.
I will read this book even it I don’t win it.
Thanks for introducing it.
Hard to resist a shot at a bit of therapy!Cheers