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Confessions of an Ex-pat Mother

January 19, 2015 by Elizabeth

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Elizabeth is a contributing reviewer at 5 Minutes for Books. She’s here to share some of her favorite travel/expat memoirs, as well as why she relates so easily to them.

Camel in the desert

When my oldest child, Elliot, was 5 1/2 and my twins, Abel and Ilsa, were newly 4, Donn and I sold our house, put a few important belongings (my books, his photo equipment, and this one chair that we both just loved) into solid wooden crates that we built in our driveway, and loaded our entire family plus 12 pieces of luggage onto a flight for the Islamic Republic of Mauritania.

I have to tell you that if you do this, your fellow Americans will think you are insane, but I also have to tell you that you’re not and you’re in for the time of your life.


Confessions of an Expatriate Mom



This was in April, 2001. My kids grew up under the wide skies of the Sahara desert, learning to drink camel’s milk out of wooden bowls and eat goat intestines (you have to start young to be able to do that, and I never managed). They went to school at a French international school, where they got a great education and were soon beyond the point where I could really help them with their homework. Ilsa got her first marriage proposal when she was 4, and I had to explain both to the young man and his cousin, who was my close friend, just why I didn’t seem to understand that he meant it as a compliment!

It took a while for the European washing machine to be shipped from Spain. Here are the 3 kids learning how to wash clothes the African way.
It took a while for the European washing machine to be shipped from Spain. Here are the 3 kids learning how to wash clothes the African way.

They definitely had what is now termed a free-range childhood. Everywhere we went, they were showered with candy and kisses and small gifts. Sometimes it got wearing for them, and they would be tired of other children constantly wanting to touch their hair and skin. I myself have made many babies cry in fear at my freakishly-coloured eyes and hair (blonde and blue). We stood out enough that I never had to worry about losing them. Arab cultures love children, and I knew that everyone who met them would watch out for them and protect them.

Elliot and Washita, who lived in a tent near our house.
Elliot and Washita, who lived in a tent near our house.

We worked for a small Christian non-profit doing development work, and I also taught English at the university. By American standards, our salary was low, but by Mauritanian standards, we were definitely in the 1%. I think this was invaluable as a formative experience for my kids. I still remember Elliot announcing, “We’re really rich!” to an American woman when we were in Oregon one summer, and watching her eyes travel thoughtfully down his clothing (small holes in t-shirt, worn sandals). I didn’t bother explain though, just smiled. He was used to our neighbours, who lived in a tent in a vacant lot, knocking on our door every day to ask for a large bucket of water, which was all they had for cooking and cleaning. That family happily accepted our broken toys and torn clothing, things which no charity shop here would take. Those wooden crates that we built to ship some possessions were used to build someone a brand-new shack, and the new occupants were thrilled with the quality of the wood.

The twins, age 11, posing on a cannon at an old Moroccan fort in Rabat.
The twins, age 11, posing on a cannon at an old Moroccan fort in Rabat.

We moved back to Oregon in August, 2010, and began reverse culture-shock, which I happen to think is worse than going the other way. The kids went to American schools for the first time in Grades 8 and 10. The first day Ilsa politely greeted everyone, boys and girls and teachers alike, with 2 air kisses, only to have one girl blurt out, “Why are you kissing everyone? Are you a lesbian?” We looked and sounded like everyone else but we were lost in the system, with everything new and strange. But we survived that too, although our years overseas have changed us irrevocably. This has meant our teens don’t whine for new iPhones or for the trendy jeans, because they haven’t forgotten that actually, we are really really rich.

Ex-pat parenting in the pages

I’ve written lots of stories about life in Mauritania and Morocco on my blog (see links at bottom). I hope to publish a book some day about it all. I’m also an avid reader who is naturally drawn to stories about other expatriates, especially those who are also crazy enough to move internationally with children in tow. I recently read, and really enjoyed, Peanut Butter and Naan (click through to see my full review at 5 Minutes for Books). Author Jennifer Hillman Magnuson moved her family of 7 to India for a year, for her husband’s work, yes, but also in large part because she wanted to break free of the consumerist society that was molding her young teens. Her book is really funny and touching too, and I highly recommend it.

Other ex-pat memoirs I’ve enjoyed

A classic is Paris to the Moon, which I read during the year we lived in France. (We were also in Morocco for 2 years. We moved internationally 6 times as a family. I can unpack an entire house in 3 hours, as long as I have help with furniture) Adam Gopnik is a writer for the New Yorker and his book compromises both personal stories and essays about French politics and culture. It’s really good and made me laugh out loud several times. I read Diplomatic Baggage: The Adventures of a Trailing Spouse several years ago and remember it being really amusing, although the reviews on amazon are less than kind. I’ll have to reread it. I loved The Caliph’s House, which is about the renovation of a riad in Casablanca. I also thoroughly enjoyed Global Mom (linked to my review), which told a story that mirrored my own, of a family who moved to several different countries, and faced difficulties but found joys that far outweighed them.

So, have you lived in different countries? If not, do you sometimes feel a secret hankering to pull up your roots and fly away? Or is a trip to Hawaii as exotic as you’d let it get? Let’s talk about it in comments.

Want to learn more about our adventures in Mauritania and Morocco? Please say yes! Here are a few links to some of my favorite stories on my personal blog.

  • Tiviski: we used to go to the beach with other expats every Saturday. This is the day we found the shark.
  • Trip to M’Beka: we loved to go camping in the desert. This is in two parts and tells of a trip with 2 other families to see the crocodiles in the oasis. Part One and Part Two.
  • Trip to the Chellah: This one is written by Abel (age 11 at the time), and has lots of pictures. The Chellah is half Roman ruins and half Moroccan ruins, and it’s a fascinating place to visit.
  • Toenail Begone!: In which Ilsa gets her toenail removed by a Moroccan surgeon.
  • Visit to Rabat Beach: in which the family goes to the beach in Rabat, Morocco, and Ilsa attracts a lot of local boys in a way that’s really sweet.
  • Ancient Ruins and a Modern Family: A trip to Fez and Volubilus
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Elizabeth is a voracious reader with eclectic tastes who loves being part of the team at 5 Minutes for Books. She's lived in 7 countries and is currently in Oregon, where she spends most of her time with Iraqi refugees. She has 3 teens.

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15 Comments

  1. Joanne says

    August 11, 2015 at 8:18 am

    What a wonderful story! My 29-year-old son, a white American, sent it to me because he’s going to teach in the US Embassy in Mauritania during the coming school year and wants to alleviate my fears. When you lived there, ISIS didn’t exist and the terror threat from it and other extremist groups wasn’t what it is today. The US Government has a travel warning against Mauritania, and ISIS, Al Qaeda and Boko Haram train in its deserts. I’m hoping his experience is as rich as yours and I am trying to put my fear in check.

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  2. Richard Hicks says

    February 11, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Wow, what a great way for the kids to eexperience new places. Memories they will have forever!

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  3. Theresa Smith says

    February 10, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    This must have been a great experience for your kids to be in another country. I have never been out of the United States. Kids can be insensitive sometimes. I am sorry about the comment about air kisses.

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  4. vickie couturier says

    February 9, 2015 at 8:17 am

    never lived in another country,,been to hawaii,,and i was disappointed that it was so commerical,,we did go to maui and it was more like what I was expecting

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  5. Rebecca Parsons says

    February 8, 2015 at 10:56 am

    What a neat and unforgettable experience your children have had. My kids are grown now but my daughter is talking about going overseas and is planning to have kids. Should be a neat experience for her and her husband and hopefully children one day!

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  6. meagan bs says

    February 2, 2015 at 11:32 am

    I haven’t ever lived in another country but I do often wish I had had a career or lifestyle that would lead my family to different places.

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  7. Idaho Jill says

    January 27, 2015 at 5:06 pm

    We have been talking about moving overseas for over 5 years…to Chile. I read everything I could read, researched, etc., but we came to the conclusion that we can’t leave aging parents quite yet…and Chile is just so far away. Plus we can’t leave jobs…so we are trying to figure out how to work online so we can work anywhere. Then we decided on Mexico instead – closer to the US, so we could visit and so could they. But there is still the job thing…and the money thing…but I really really really want to go. I need an adventure and I need my daughter to see that Americans live like…well, Americans, and while we are grateful for every thing here, it is so important to experience other places and cultures. Someday we will! I loved reading this, thanks for sharing!

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  8. Kelly Gutierrez says

    January 27, 2015 at 9:57 am

    With tax season well upon us, the IRS is actively encouraging small employers to see if they qualify for the “small business health care tax credit.” The first requirement is that your company currently provides health coverage to your employers.

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  9. Quinn says

    January 22, 2015 at 5:41 am

    Just moved from upstate New York to Adelaide, Australia less than two weeks ago with my husband and my poor jet-lagged seven month old son. I love it here. Not as exotic as your moves, which sounds like an amazing experience, but we are excited to travel around Australia and a bit of Asia in the future.

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    • Elizabeth says

      January 25, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Quinn, my husband visited Australia once and loved it. He’s always wanted to go back. I’m sure you’ll find Australia to be more different from the US than you expected, but it will be fun too (I hope). At least you can mostly understand what they tell you, and read the street signs!

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  10. Ashley says

    January 19, 2015 at 3:16 pm

    So glad I came across this post! My partner and I are in the (very early) stages of discussing a move to Central America, with our 2-year old daughter. The problem is, he has a successful business that he’s convinced demands his physical presence (it doesn’t). I’m hopeful we’ll make it happen soon.

    I just want my daughter to be a child, you know? I want her to learn empathy, compassion, kindness, and free play – not iPads, forced sharing, and algebra in grade school. An elaboration, but you catch my drift, I hope…

    Can’t wait to check out your links in more detail!

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    • Elizabeth says

      January 25, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Ashley, that sounds exciting. Your daughter will be a great age by the time you go, too…old enough to be potty-trained and sleeping through the night, old enough that you’ve established basic parameters of expectations before culture shock throws you all out of whack, and young enough to thoroughly learn a new language and culture. Would this be a permanent move or only for a few years?

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      • Ashley Lauren Trexler says

        January 26, 2015 at 9:18 am

        I’m hoping it will be a semi-permanent move, as there are many other places I’d like to live, too!

        If our daughter develops the temperament for travel (fingers crossed!) then we’d like to live abroad elsewhere, while she’s growing up. That said, if she likes being in one place (and that’s fine, not everyone is an adventurer) then I’m not sure what we’d do…stay in Costa Rica if we liked it, or come back to the US. Whichever, I’d like to believe we’ll still travel as much as possible!

        The slowly developing plan is my partner will split his time between our US base and Costa Rica (or wherever we land). This way he can still be present, in his office, at first, and adjust his schedule accordingly.

        While we’ll miss him, I hope the time he spends with our daughter will be more quality-time than we have now. Work/Life balance in the US in terrible, as you’re aware 🙂

        We’ll see. We’re visiting Costa Rica again, in April, and will spend a bit of time exploring some potential relocation areas.

        Reading The Caliph’s House for our next book club meeting, by the way. Thanks for the great recommendation, and helpful insights into living abroad!

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  11. Janell Poulette says

    January 19, 2015 at 8:48 am

    How awesome I just came across this article. My family just move back from Mexico City this week we were missionaries there for over 11 years. I’ll be back to check out the books you wrote about.

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    • Elizabeth says

      January 19, 2015 at 1:36 pm

      Janell, I have to say you’re in for a wild ride as you repatriate. My advice is to give yourselves and your kids (if you have them) a lot of grace. What part of Mexico were you in? I’ve only been there once, in a tiny town called San Felipe, but I loved it.

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