Here’s an interesting article that may change the way you praise your children’s performance in school.
The article states:
…complimenting children for their intelligence and academic performance may lead them to believe that good test scores and high grades are more important than learning and mastering something new.
Dr. Dweck, lead author of the study, claims:
“Praising children’s intelligence, far from boosting their self-esteem, encourages them to embrace self-defeating behaviors, such as worrying about failure and avoiding risks,” she notes. “However, when children are taught the value of concentrating, strategizing, and working hard when dealing with academic challenges, this encourages them to sustain their motivation, performance, and self-esteem.”
For Janice and I, this theory proved to be exactly right.
When we were growing up, our parents put an extremely high value in grades and constantly praised our academic performance. They obviously only meant to encourage and reward our successes, but we both became over-achievers with straight A’s and an enormous fear of failure.
I am glad to have read this article and I will try and alter the way I approach praising Jackson’s and Julia’s intelligence.
The article isn’t long… read it over and let us know what you think.
Do you think it is accurate? Will reading it affect how you praise and motivate your children in the future?