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  1. [...] Worried about the impending teenage years? Wondering how to get more than a one-word response from your kids? We can all benefit by brushing brushing up on our active listening skills. For a few tips, please read my Positively Speaking column at 5 Minutes for Mom. [...]

  2. Mommie Life
    Mar 06 - 1:54 pm

    Thanks for your thoughts! I think your right on about active listening! So important!!

  3. Jennifer, Snapshot
    Mar 06 - 3:55 pm

    A friend and I were JUST talking about this. We have to be available (like in the car — just sitting and not always talking on the phone), so that IF they feel like talking, we’re ready.

    And that’s often a big IF in the tween/teen years.

  4. Sarah
    Mar 06 - 8:45 pm

    This is so great! I like the tips shared. We do the “Highs/Lows” at dinner almost every night. Our kids are really little, but they really enjoy this. They also seem like they really want to talk to us- even at such a young age. I know that as they get older, it will be harder. Hopefully we will be able to keep those lines of communication open.

  5. stacy
    Mar 07 - 10:41 am

    It’s really hard when they become teens (working on my 3rd one!) because they are trying to separate from you and can sometimes see the questions as an intrusion. I find that just being around them and letting them start the conversation works for me.

  6. Tired Mom Tésa
    Mar 07 - 8:30 pm

    Thanks for the tips, they’re very helpful. Even at 3 and 4 years old, when asked how was school my two say “Okay.” It’s tough to get anything more out of them, but I’ll give these a try.

  7. Allison
    Mar 08 - 8:34 am

    These are some great tips. I especially like paraphrasing, it lets your child know that you are listening and understand how they are feeling.

  8. hair bow girl
    Mar 08 - 12:26 pm

    Thanks for the tips. They are good ones.

  9. These are great tips, but how do you get your kids to talk, especially as they get older? I don’t have the answer, but I remember when I was a teenager most of the conversations with my mom happened during cooking or cleaning up, when there were just the two of us in the kitchen :)

    • Kelly
      Mar 13 - 11:08 pm

      Exactly, Yelena – I think the side-by-side activities best lend themselves to conversation. In the car is great, but also any activities that have you focusing on something other than each others’ faces.

  10. Kris Bordessa
    Apr 22 - 2:21 am

    In the car, in the car! My boys will talk to me in the car, I think not so much because I’m available, but because they can do so without having to actually FACE me. Sitting side by side, there’s still a sense of togetherness, but embarrassing subjects can be broached without them having to look at my eyes.

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