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Each Month You Hope…

September 1, 2006 by Janice

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No matter how hard you try, you can’t stop hope.

I want to scream when well-meaning friends hand out the weathered advice, “Just stop thinking about it and it will happen.” Don’t they realize I can’t kill that instinct of hope? It keeps beating despite my attempts to smother it.

And each month I try to convince myself, “I am not pregnant.” But inside, secretly, I am hoping, planning.

The worst time of the month is those last few days. With swollen, painful breasts, I tell myself it’s just pre-menstrual nothing more. But I hope anyway. I count the days. I do the math over and over.

This morning I get the news as I step into the shower. I let out a little whimper and try to stand up as the waves of grieve crash in. I am grateful for at least ten minutes of privacy to grieve as I step into the steam of the shower. And I cry silently without tears as the hot water tries to soothe me.

I have given it over to God months ago. But it doesn’t feel like it. I know I am supposed to leave it there and walk in surrender. And in some ways I suppose I have. But that doesn’t stop the grief, the loss I feel every month as a new hope dies. Each month it seems I lose a new baby. Each month the chance of meeting that new life is gone again.

I finish my shower, get dressed and go downstairs. I don’t feel too sorry for myself. How can I? I am so lucky. My sweet son is waiting for me. His eyes light up as I come in the room and he asks me to play with him.

I am a mother and I am so very, very grateful.

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31 Comments

  1. MichelleD says

    September 25, 2006 at 9:03 pm

    I’m there with you in the same weariness of the cycle of hope and disappointment. It helps me know that I’m not alone.
    (((hugs)))
    Twinkling for Jesus,
    Michelle

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  2. Kerri says

    September 7, 2006 at 6:15 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing. And I just remember it seeming like everyone around me could just say the word “pregnant” and be so, while I cried at the stupid single line each month. Hoping for you…

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  3. Janice says

    September 5, 2006 at 10:22 pm

    Wow – I feel so loved and cared for!! Thanks you so much for all your love and prayers!

    I am cautious about talking about my fertility issues considering I am so blessed to have one child and so many women never even get to have one! But I also wanted to be honest about what I am going through. To know that you are all sending prayers helps so much. MY sincerest thanks!!!

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  4. Jenn says

    September 4, 2006 at 8:56 pm

    Many hugs and lots of pregnancy vibes!!!

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  5. Susanne says

    September 3, 2006 at 2:54 pm

    Janice,

    Lifting you up before the Lord today! My heart hurts for you! I can’t say I know exactly what you’re feeling in this area ’cause I haven’t walked this road, but I do know what it’s like to keep hoping and then be disappointed over and over. I do know, though, that God has a perfect plan for You and perfect timing and I will be praying that that is revealed to you as He sees fit. And may you be strengthened to know others are uplifting you!

    {{{{Hugs}}}}
    Susanne

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  6. Barb says

    September 3, 2006 at 11:48 am

    Awww Janice. It hurts. I know it does. I went through nine years of infertility so I know it feels like a little death every month. I remember the things well-meaning people said to me and how it didn’t help so I won’t do that here. Just know that a lot of us out here really appreciate your honestly and transparency.

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  7. Val says

    September 3, 2006 at 7:35 am

    I understand your feelings. I used to have the same. It’s so painful…. but we have to believe it will work !!!

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  8. eph2810 says

    September 3, 2006 at 7:33 am

    Lifting you in my prayers, sweet sister.
    No, I will not give you any advice, because I know how it hurts to not be ‘pregnant again!’ ~ I just pray for you.
    You are right, you have Jackson, and what a precious child he is.
    (((hugs)))

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  9. Susan says

    September 3, 2006 at 1:00 am

    On behalf of Janice, I thank you all so much for your kind words. She has gone away for the weekend, but she’ll love to read your comments and visit all your blogs when she gets back.

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  10. Marie says

    September 2, 2006 at 6:44 pm

    I know what it’s like to go through what you’re going through right now, and as I’ve been with other friends as , they’ve gone through treatment, it’s such a roller coaster of hopes and dreams.
    Thank you for sharing your heart with us all.

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  11. Ruth says

    September 2, 2006 at 6:37 pm

    your post touched my heart deeply.

    my mom had my brother and i and then she had alot of trouble getting pregnant. she lost twins and then she lost another baby. and then she didnt get pregnant. and then when i was 12 years old she got pregnant. and again when i was 14 years old.

    my baby sisters were like my own babies. except no labor. and no stretch marks.

    i’m thinking about you. love you. xo

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  12. Carol says

    September 2, 2006 at 4:37 pm

    {{{Janice}}}

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  13. Kailani says

    September 2, 2006 at 2:55 pm

    I remember those moments. When Girlie Girl turned 1 we tried every month for 2 years. It was a very difficult time for us. I was pretty sure that GG was going to be an only child. Then by some miracle, Baby Bug was concieved. Don’t stop the hope.

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  14. Jodi says

    September 2, 2006 at 11:08 am

    Many hugs and prayers Janice!

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  15. Carrie K. says

    September 2, 2006 at 10:45 am

    You’re in my prayers today.

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  16. Lindsey says

    September 2, 2006 at 10:42 am

    I remember those days. We went through five years of constantly trying to get pregnant/stay pregnant after losing two babies.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers. Your post blessed me.

    By the way—I’m now in the season of my life where it feels so good to just enjoy my kids and not be obsessed about having another one. (not saying that you are…I just remember how I felt). Now it almost seems bittersweet…everyone told me I’d know when I was done, that you would just feel it, and I thought they were crazy. But it really is true.

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  17. Pass the Torch says

    September 2, 2006 at 10:29 am

    Beautiful post. You’re in my thoughts…

    Home of Pass the Torch Tuesday

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  18. kelly jeanie says

    September 2, 2006 at 9:45 am

    This post…I am there with you. I had to see a doctor to get pregnant with my now 18 month-old but that hope is still there, every month. I too feel so blessed to have my little boy, but…but. Thank you for articulating this so well.

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  19. Laurie says

    September 2, 2006 at 9:41 am

    Janice,
    Even at 46 if I am a little late I get my hopes up. I have planned names so many times. I love my four, I would have loved a fifth. God’s blessing on you and yours.

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  20. Katrina says

    September 2, 2006 at 7:08 am

    Oh Janice, I’m so sorry. Thank you for sharing this so authentically – I know it will touch many women’s hearts.

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  21. crygibb says

    September 2, 2006 at 5:34 am

    You are in my prayers. God has a plan for you, and when the time is right, He will let you know.

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  22. Jessica says

    September 2, 2006 at 5:22 am

    *HUGS GO TO YOU*

    Keep your chin up and hopefully things will work out your way soon!

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  23. boomama says

    September 2, 2006 at 5:20 am

    Beautiful post, Janice – just beautiful.

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  24. MamaDuck says

    September 2, 2006 at 4:49 am

    *hugs* Also sending you all my pg vibes, I pray every month not to be pregnant tho I do love my little guy ;).

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  25. Mom2fur says

    September 2, 2006 at 4:08 am

    Oh, sweetie. I remember when I was first married that I cried every month, too. 14 months later I had my first. Now I have four. I know it will happen for you, too!

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  26. Adventures In Babywearing says

    September 2, 2006 at 3:13 am

    Oh, I do hope you are feeling better. It is so easy to ‘say’ you’ve put it in His hands and another thing to have your heart believe it.

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  27. Heather says

    September 2, 2006 at 12:59 am

    You are a wonderful mother and I am so proud to call you friend! I am thankful for the relationship that Christ has formed between us and the doors he continues to open!

    I cant relate to infertility, but I will say that you are in my prayers and that I pray that His perfect will is completed, whatever that may be..

    -Heather

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  28. e-Mom says

    September 1, 2006 at 11:59 pm

    Thanks for your honesty. Ouch. I feel your pain, sister. You’re in my prayers.

    Reply

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