How to Survive Blogger’s Jealousy

by Susan

Ordinary life as a girl and a woman means a continual internal battle against jealousy. When you add blogging and social media, that battle can multiply into a full-on war within yourself.

How to Survive Bloggers Jealousy

Likes, page views, and other stats constantly remind us that we’re not as good as everyone else.

Beautiful photos and Facebook updates show perfect lives that we wish we had.

If you’re a blogger depending on your income to pay your mortgage, the game gets really brutal.

It can knock you down each time you climb back up.

Here is how to Survive Blogger’s Jealousy…

  1. Acknowledge it.
     
    The urge to compare yourself, your life and your stats is real. The pangs of jealousy are not a sign of weakness, but they need to be controlled.

  2. Remember the Comparisons Are Skewed.
     
    As it is said, you’re comparing their outsides with your insides. People present the best view of themselves online and you compare it to the worst view of yourself that you carry in your mind. And remind yourself, we each have a different hand of cards to play. We have different support systems and different goals.
     
  3. Be Your Own Cheerleader.
     
    Be as nice to yourself as you would to your best friend. Think of what a coach would say to inspire her star player and say that over and over to yourself.

  4. Get Inspired.
     
    We continually see blog posts, photos, crafts and recipes that we wish we’d made ourselves. So be inspired. Learn and grow your own skills and then make something you love.
     
  5. Collaborate.
     
    Find a group of like-minded blogging friends and form a tribe. We grow together in this business. If you try to make it alone, you won’t get far and you’ll be unhappy along the way.

  6. Celebrate Successes.
     
    Take time to pause and pat yourself on the back when something goes well. I struggle with remembering to do this step, but I know it’s important.

  7. Have Fun.
     
    Life should be fun. It often isn’t, but we should strive to have as much fun as we can. As bloggers we need to remember how amazing the world of technology is that we’re able to blog in the first place. We’re so lucky to live in this digital age. Social media is a gift. Let’s have fun with it.

How Do You Conquer Jealousy?

I’d love to hear if you ever feel jealous of other bloggers or friends online and how you push past those feelings?

 

Written by Susan Carraretto, co-founder of 5 Minutes for Mom
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Susan Carraretto and her identical twin, Janice Croze, created 5 Minutes for Mom in 2006. Susan loves all social media, but her top addiction these days is Pinterest. She recently published a children's book titled "The Pest Detectives" which you can download now in digital format for free.

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1 Desiree Fawn June 3, 2014 at 12:21 pm

It can be tough, but I always think: “No matter how well someone is doing, someone is always doing better!” So why fret? :)

Meeting bloggers and creating that support network has been an incredible force in my life. I wouldn’t give up this life for anything!

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2 Susan June 5, 2014 at 3:45 am

That’s an awesome attitude Desiree. And you’re right, we get to meet the most amazing women in this business. We are so blessed.

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3 Jennifer Donovan June 3, 2014 at 8:38 pm

Great thoughts! I always remind myself “I’m doing what I love.” Yes, I may wish I could be doing what someone else is doing as well, but either way, I’m privileged to do what I do.

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4 Susan June 5, 2014 at 3:45 am

Exactly. We never could have imagined this a decade ago.

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5 Lisa Brown June 4, 2014 at 3:10 pm

yes, i can see how wit could be frustrating. Acknowledging the problem will help resolve it sooner.

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6 Susan June 5, 2014 at 3:46 am

Yes, acknowledging a problem is always step 1.

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7 Nicole Dz June 4, 2014 at 4:25 pm

I agree with the be your own cheerleader and stay positive. You have to take pride when you do succeed and reward yourself.

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8 Susan June 5, 2014 at 3:46 am

Yes, it sure can be hard though. It’s funny how women are so much kinder to other people than themselves.

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9 Meagan bs June 4, 2014 at 4:38 pm

i dont have a blog, but i do sometimes see people’s lives in blogs and get jealous. I try to remind myself that we only see the parts of people’s lives online that they choose to share with us, meaning there are plenty of messy things we probably want no part of.

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10 Susan June 5, 2014 at 3:47 am

Exactly… behind the blogs our lives are chaos. (And in my case, I mean that literally. LOL)

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11 anne June 4, 2014 at 5:00 pm

I don’t blog but keep an even keel and realize that life is what is important.

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12 cathy June 4, 2014 at 8:21 pm

Low expectations or “how do I know what I’m saying is worth saying?”. Then again I’m not making any money from it.

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13 Kristina June 5, 2014 at 1:33 pm

Wow. I had never thought about Blogger’s jealousy. Interesting!

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14 Connie June 5, 2014 at 8:11 pm

Well said. I SO agree with everything. I have noticed a trend with my fellow entrepreneurs and publishers like you both. Those that help and support others tend to be the most successful!

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15 Susan June 19, 2014 at 6:42 pm

Yes, it is a common thing to see amongst entrepreneurs and publishers… you’re right. The more “good” you put out there, the more that comes back to you.

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16 Connie June 5, 2014 at 8:14 pm

SO agree with everything here. I have noticed a trend with my fellow entrepreneurs & publishers like you. Those that help and support others tend to be the most successful!

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17 Tammy S June 6, 2014 at 10:11 am

This are super tips for any life situation. I really like the Get Inspired! I wish more people did that. I think everyone judges themselves harder then others.

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18 vickie couturier June 9, 2014 at 8:29 am

Im not having that problem,,im not that interesting ,lol,,am im okay with that too

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19 Whitney Wingerd June 9, 2014 at 7:40 pm

Love this Susan – some great tips! Especially agree with finding your own tribe – finding like-minded supportive bloggers in recent years has really lifted me up mentally when dealing with some of the harshness of being in this space.

And as you said – social media is a gift! We are lucky to have the opportunities we have in today’s age! I am thankful every day I can stay home with my kids while still working to help support the family. Such a good reminder for us all.

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20 Lindsay June 9, 2014 at 8:40 pm

Helping others. Promoting others. Right now I’m trying to help my friends etsy shop grow.

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21 Betsy Barnes June 15, 2014 at 8:03 pm

There are times when I’m feeling down, that I get a little jealous of my friends. I remind myself that I’m having a rough time and things will turn around. I am happy for my friends and I let them know. I also step back, take a deep breath and do something that I love, like read :)

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22 Jill Myrick June 16, 2014 at 10:22 am

I don’t currently have a blog that is up and running but am in the process of trying to get one going.
I might be able to see how others could get jealous but for me I’m just not that type of person.
It would personally just make me strive harder in hopes that mine will one day be as good as others.

I realize that having and running a blog is a lot of work. And I am most grateful to the bloggers that post honest reviews and giveaways.
It gives me the ability to find out all I need to know about an item (both good and bad) and make an informed decision.

jweezie43[at]gmail[dot]com

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23 Cathy Burnett June 16, 2014 at 7:44 pm

I know that I, myself, am very fortunate to be able to travel and spend time with friends and family like I do. I post pictures of all my road trips with these people and I wonder sometimes if my blessings make other people feel bad. I try to include all my friends and share in my spoilage whenever I can.

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24 Amanda Sakovitz June 17, 2014 at 10:04 am

Great tips! I also feel like you can apply these to any life situation.

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25 RICHARD HICKS June 18, 2014 at 12:19 am

I don’t get jealous. WHen I see a great blog I applaud them and think to myself that I need to get busy learning more to enhance my own.

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26 Charlene Kuser June 18, 2014 at 7:38 am

I agree and never thought about this aspect.We all need to be thankful for what we have,for it can be taken away in a flash.

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27 Cheryl June 19, 2014 at 11:24 pm

I stopped blogging several years ago — partly due to the “Mommy Wars” and the bad vibes that became more of a norm as the blogging world grew and partly to focus on my own business. I recently started blogging again because I missed sharing my quirkiness. My theory is that what you see online is only part of the story — life may not be as glorious as depicted on a blog or on social media. Quiet success has always been more of my style.

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