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  1. I have been that mom on the side many times. Even with friends who realize my son has issues, the older he gets the less accepting they seem to be of it and it does feel like they are judging me sometimes. But admittedly, I find myself judging others too at times. I’ve been working really hard on that LISTEN part of those steps – I’m much better than I used to be, but I’ve got a long way to go.

    Fantastic post – I pledge I will word harder at Coexisting!

  2. Leah Segedie
    Jan 19 - 12:48 pm

    Flawed Moms unite YO! I just posted this to my Facebook wall. Here is what I wrote:

    My girl Janice Croze is promoting a movement for moms. It’s to encourage other moms to STOP JUDGING EACH OTHER with their parenting decisions. I myself have a special needs child and before we had him diagnosed, the way I was treated by other mothers was atrocious. Here are two instances of cruelty: When my son was about 2.5 we had him in a special playgroup. The other mothers decided they were fed up with my son and all decided to give me the silent treatment and turn their back on me. They literally got in a circle and ignored us. I left crying and didn’t go back. And when my son was older in preschool, a group of mothers went to the school administrator and demanded that he be kicked out of school. Flash forward, he was diagnosed with Aspergers. I really had no control over a lot of the behaviors he exhibited that they thought I did have control over.

    Be careful who you judge. You may have NO idea what the f*ck you are talking about.

  3. Gina
    Jan 19 - 1:03 pm

    Thanks for posting this. My son has autism and I find a lot of people try to give me advice about everything. This is a great post. Thank you!

  4. This is amazing! You described the way I feel perfectly. Definitely sharing this info.

  5. Amber
    Jan 19 - 1:17 pm

    Excellent post! As a teacher I see that among other parents as well as teachers. I found this post to be very enlightening and so true! We should always imagine as if we were walking in someone else’s shoes…all it takes is some perspective.

    Thank you for posting this!!

  6. Rachel
    Jan 19 - 4:18 pm

    I can’t thank you enough for passing this onward. I can only hope that we all can learn to do better, and maybe the accountability of saying we will can really make a difference! I certainly needed the accountability myself!

  7. Weight Loss Mother
    Jan 19 - 4:54 pm

    I strongly agree with this because all parents have a different way off doing things. We must co-exist and learn from each other instead of trying to prove each other wrong all the time

  8. Apple Daniels
    Jan 19 - 10:57 pm

    Great post Janice, although in some respects it kind of made me sad. I’m a mom of a special needs child as well. Not only that but a mom of multiples and a mom of 3 under 5. My way of parenting isn’t always the most PC, but I do what I can given my circumstances. I have two friends in particular that are REALLY judgmental. It’s not in an overt way, but it’s in a “I’m better than you” kind of way like “my 4 year old is potty trained” or “my 4 year old can do…” and it’s like “umm… okay well that’s good for you. you only have ONE 4 year old, you don’t have an infant, and you don’t have a special needs child.” Totally not using it as an excuse, but clearly we have different circumstances. I don’t know… didn’t mean to vent, but this post was right on time. I commented today on someone’s FB status about her mom watching the kids for her and it turned into this big thing about how her kids don’t do daycare (mine do part-time)… a mess!! Let me know how I can help. I’m SO on board with the campaign. As moms we should be supporting each other, not judging and tearing one another down.

  9. Tamara
    Jan 22 - 1:44 pm

    Hooray for tolerance! None of us have any idea about what goes on in someone else’s life. Every person, every moment should practice loving-kindness and withhold judgement. As a (world) community, mothers and parents should support each other with empathy and understanding. No one is perfect. And no parent has total control of their children. We’re all just people, hopefully trying to be our best!

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