5 Minutes for Books — For Parents Only

Shaunti Feldhahn has received rave reviews and informal recommendations for her book For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men for effectively explaining how men think and how to best interact with them in a way that is mutually beneficial. In her latest book, For Parents Only Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid she has teamed up with Lisa A. Rice, associcate editor of Christian Living magazine and mother to two teens, to demystify teens in the same way.

The goal of this book is to help you understand several key things that are likely going on — on soon will be — in the inner life of your child, some inner wiring that you may have never understood before (p. 2).

The facts from this book come from the interviews, focus groups, and surveys conducted with teens on such issues as freedom, responsibility, and identity. The full survey is available online as well as the honest and emotional verbatim responses to the last question, “If you knew your parents would die tomorrow, what would you want to tell them?”

This book will be encouraging and helpful to the parent of a tween or a teen, but even parents of younger children will benefit as they look ahead to the challenges that those years will bring. This book does not employ scare tactics. In fact, the overall message is that in spite of what they say, our teens want us to parent them, not to give in to their every complaint. The teens themselves admitted that even when they balk at the rules or consequences of their own actions, that is actually what makes them feel safe and loved.

Another part that I found to be very insightful (and ties in to why they senfor-parents-only.jpgd those mix signals) is that one of the most important things for teens is their pursuit of freedom. Their behavior toward acquiring this freedom is like an addict — even when they know it might not be in their best interest, they look for it and fight for it.

Any book that reminds me in a fact-based, encouraging way to actually be the parent, gets two thumbs up from me.

Leave a comment to win one of two giveaway copies (to U.S. shipping addresses only). You can purchase the book and a companion discussion guide book at amazon.com or bookstores anywhere.

Congratulations to the winners of last week’s book, A Shadow of Treason by Tricia Goyer:

#10 Laurie in TN

#31 Marie


  1. says

    I saw this in the stores this past week and I was curious. I read “For Women Only” and it was excellent. Definately a keeper! I would love to enter for a chance to win! Thank you. :)

  2. says

    I want to ditto that this book is excellent and as a parent of 7 children I think every parent should HAVE to read the book by the time their first child is 10.
    I would love to win a copy to give as a gift! I’m giving out copies for Christmas already.

  3. says

    My son turns ten this month and my daughter is half way to six. (wow they grow up so fast) I think this would be a nice read with them getting older (especially my son!)

    Thanks for the chance to win.

  4. rachel says

    I would love this! I read the for women only as a book for my Bible study last May. It had such great wisdom for real life.

  5. Autumn says

    This book sounds wonderful. I don’t think we can ever have too much valuable information or skills when it comes to interacting with our families.Would love to win.

  6. says

    Although my own children are young, I’m the wife of a youth pastor and this book is one I’d like to read. I’ve heard the author speak at a conference and was impressed with her research and also her passion. Thanks.

  7. says

    Oh wow! I really want to get inside my almost teenager’s head! Where has my little girl gone? She’s still great, but she’s so……different……

  8. JewelsHud says

    I started her For Women Only book and loved it but had to return it to the library – I’d love this one – as I’d have more time to read it – hard to fit reading in with toddlers!!

  9. Vanessa says

    I’m buying “For Women Only” right now. I’ve been looking for a good relationship book. I could probably use “For Parents Only” too!


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