5 Minutes for Books — For Parents Only

by Jennifer Donovan

Shaunti Feldhahn has received rave reviews and informal recommendations for her book For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men for effectively explaining how men think and how to best interact with them in a way that is mutually beneficial. In her latest book, For Parents Only Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid she has teamed up with Lisa A. Rice, associcate editor of Christian Living magazine and mother to two teens, to demystify teens in the same way.

The goal of this book is to help you understand several key things that are likely going on — on soon will be — in the inner life of your child, some inner wiring that you may have never understood before (p. 2).

The facts from this book come from the interviews, focus groups, and surveys conducted with teens on such issues as freedom, responsibility, and identity. The full survey is available online as well as the honest and emotional verbatim responses to the last question, “If you knew your parents would die tomorrow, what would you want to tell them?”

This book will be encouraging and helpful to the parent of a tween or a teen, but even parents of younger children will benefit as they look ahead to the challenges that those years will bring. This book does not employ scare tactics. In fact, the overall message is that in spite of what they say, our teens want us to parent them, not to give in to their every complaint. The teens themselves admitted that even when they balk at the rules or consequences of their own actions, that is actually what makes them feel safe and loved.

Another part that I found to be very insightful (and ties in to why they senfor-parents-only.jpgd those mix signals) is that one of the most important things for teens is their pursuit of freedom. Their behavior toward acquiring this freedom is like an addict — even when they know it might not be in their best interest, they look for it and fight for it.

Any book that reminds me in a fact-based, encouraging way to actually be the parent, gets two thumbs up from me.

Leave a comment to win one of two giveaway copies (to U.S. shipping addresses only). You can purchase the book and a companion discussion guide book at amazon.com or bookstores anywhere.

Congratulations to the winners of last week’s book, A Shadow of Treason by Tricia Goyer:

#10 Laurie in TN

#31 Marie



Email Author    |    Website About Jennifer Donovan

Jennifer Donovan has been a part of the 5 Minutes for Mom team since 2007. She writes product reviews, covers events, and manages the 5 Minutes for Books weekly column and website. She lives in Houston and blogs at Snapshot about life with her family.

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1 SJ December 3, 2007 at 12:36 am

Looks like a great book! Great review.

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2 Christy December 3, 2007 at 12:56 am

I heard her speak and it was great. I would love to read the book.

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3 Angela & Connor December 3, 2007 at 1:43 am

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4 Lindsey December 3, 2007 at 1:49 am

Looks good to me. Add me in! =)

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5 Casey December 3, 2007 at 2:29 am

These books sound interesting.

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6 Linda C December 3, 2007 at 7:45 am

Please add me to the drawing.

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7 Bess December 3, 2007 at 7:50 am

Count me in! Thanks!

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8 Mama Grizzly December 3, 2007 at 8:11 am

This book sounds fabulous!

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9 Julie F. December 3, 2007 at 8:15 am

Always good to prepare for what’s in store. Sounds interesting.

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10 Jenn December 3, 2007 at 8:37 am

I’m all for books that give factual info without using scare tactics!

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11 Heather December 3, 2007 at 9:04 am

I’d like to read that! I enjoyed FWO by her.

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12 Cory December 3, 2007 at 9:10 am

Both great books. I would be excited to win either one of them. Thank you, Cory

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13 Carey December 3, 2007 at 9:31 am

Count me in. My tween turns 13 in 3 months. Sounds like a really good read.

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14 Jennifer December 3, 2007 at 10:06 am

I’d love to read this!

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15 frannie December 3, 2007 at 10:42 am

count me in!

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16 Colleen December 3, 2007 at 10:45 am

Loved her other book!

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17 Amy D December 3, 2007 at 11:00 am

i’d love a copy of this.

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18 Jennifer C. December 3, 2007 at 11:04 am

I ould love to read this book. It sounds terrific.

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19 Janine December 3, 2007 at 11:05 am

YES please… Books are our friends! :)
Sounds like a great read!

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20 Kira December 3, 2007 at 12:07 pm

Sounds good!

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21 jenna December 3, 2007 at 12:07 pm

I have given a copy of this to my Mom and I’d love to read it and/or give it to a friend.

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22 Christin Slade December 3, 2007 at 12:50 pm

I saw this in the stores this past week and I was curious. I read “For Women Only” and it was excellent. Definately a keeper! I would love to enter for a chance to win! Thank you. :)
Christin

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23 Qtpies7 December 3, 2007 at 1:05 pm

I want to ditto that this book is excellent and as a parent of 7 children I think every parent should HAVE to read the book by the time their first child is 10.
I would love to win a copy to give as a gift! I’m giving out copies for Christmas already.

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24 Amanda December 3, 2007 at 1:07 pm

I would LOVE to read this book!

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25 Angela Young December 3, 2007 at 1:20 pm

Yes…please sign me up.

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26 Sandy December 3, 2007 at 1:22 pm

Sounds like a book I need! :)

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27 TNChick December 3, 2007 at 1:31 pm

My son turns ten this month and my daughter is half way to six. (wow they grow up so fast) I think this would be a nice read with them getting older (especially my son!)

Thanks for the chance to win.

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28 Audrey December 3, 2007 at 2:33 pm

Sounds like a good read!!

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29 Brooke December 3, 2007 at 2:33 pm

Please randomly select me!!!

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30 Patti December 3, 2007 at 2:43 pm

Sounds great!

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31 Jill December 3, 2007 at 2:44 pm

Sounds like a great read for us parents of ‘tweens.

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32 Tonya December 3, 2007 at 2:53 pm

this sounds like it would be interesting and a quick read for busy moms.

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33 Michele December 3, 2007 at 3:03 pm

I love her books!

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34 Lauren December 3, 2007 at 3:13 pm

Please include me!

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35 Cindy December 3, 2007 at 3:23 pm

I would love to Win this book..Would be very helpful for my teens.

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36 Elizabeth Kuder December 3, 2007 at 3:23 pm

I’d love to have this one.

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37 bobby and jenn December 3, 2007 at 3:28 pm

sounds like a great book, we’d love this!

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38 jessie December 3, 2007 at 3:33 pm

sounds great, please enter me!

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39 melody is slurping life December 3, 2007 at 3:38 pm

With a son turning 13 next month, I’d love to be entered for “For Parents Only”. Thanks.

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40 jessica December 3, 2007 at 3:46 pm

i love their other books!

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41 Rachea December 3, 2007 at 3:54 pm

count me in on it For parents only Thnaks

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42 Nancy Jachcik December 3, 2007 at 3:55 pm

sounds good

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43 Charlsie December 3, 2007 at 4:04 pm

please count me in!

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44 Pam December 3, 2007 at 4:12 pm

These look great!

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45 Donna December 3, 2007 at 4:15 pm

My daughter is almost 10, so this book sounds great!

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46 ashley December 3, 2007 at 4:32 pm

This would be great to have!

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47 emily December 3, 2007 at 4:54 pm

would really love to win this book. Very excited to read it this winter….thanks!

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48 Jenn December 3, 2007 at 5:00 pm

This book sounds like something I need to read!

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49 Christy H. December 3, 2007 at 5:11 pm

Please enter me to win.

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50 Susanne December 3, 2007 at 5:21 pm

Oh, Oh…I really love Shaunti books, I would love to win!!! Thanks…

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51 Heather (Heather's reality show) December 3, 2007 at 5:21 pm

I would love this book

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52 Sarah December 3, 2007 at 5:27 pm

I’d love this book! I have her “For Women Only” book and didn’t know she came out with a “parents” version.

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53 Stacey Moore December 3, 2007 at 5:58 pm

Sounds like a good book.

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54 Pam December 3, 2007 at 6:06 pm

I have the For Women Only book but I would LOVE the For Parents book!

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55 Taryn December 3, 2007 at 6:25 pm

please :)

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56 rachel December 3, 2007 at 7:07 pm

I would love this! I read the for women only as a book for my Bible study last May. It had such great wisdom for real life.

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57 Autumn December 3, 2007 at 7:40 pm

This book sounds wonderful. I don’t think we can ever have too much valuable information or skills when it comes to interacting with our families.Would love to win.

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58 Natalie December 3, 2007 at 7:42 pm

Count me in! :)

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59 Julie Mead December 3, 2007 at 8:06 pm

This book sounds great! I would love to win it!

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60 Corina Smith December 3, 2007 at 8:11 pm

What a great book! :)

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61 Beth December 3, 2007 at 8:48 pm

Count me in!! Great info that I’m sure we all can use!!!

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62 Becca December 3, 2007 at 9:02 pm

I dread when my daughter gets to be this age, but this book might be some good preparation.

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63 Sarah Berry December 3, 2007 at 9:31 pm

Sign me up not only would it be an interesting read as a mom but also great for the job.

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64 slackermommy December 3, 2007 at 9:43 pm

Great review!

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65 Meg December 3, 2007 at 9:46 pm

Count me in! Sounds interesting!

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66 Charissa December 3, 2007 at 9:56 pm

Sounds like an interesting book. I would love to read it.

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67 Jenny December 3, 2007 at 10:29 pm

that looks like a nifty book. i’ll definately haave to check it out.

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68 Renae December 3, 2007 at 10:47 pm

Sounds like a good book.

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69 Bree T. December 3, 2007 at 10:52 pm

This book sounds great!!

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70 Jill December 3, 2007 at 10:55 pm

Looks good, count me in!

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71 Sarah W. December 4, 2007 at 12:11 am

I love this author. I would love to read this book!!

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72 Courtney Pollmann December 4, 2007 at 12:51 am

Aahh, to read a book again!

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73 Diana December 4, 2007 at 1:28 am

I have both teens and tweens, and I would love to own that book. Please enter me in the giveaway. Thanks.

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74 Christi Saragosa December 4, 2007 at 1:31 am

Looks like a great book. Anything to help with 3 teens in this house!

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75 Kira December 4, 2007 at 9:15 am

Looks great!

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76 cs white December 4, 2007 at 9:49 am

The book looks interesting – sign me up, please!

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77 lana December 4, 2007 at 9:54 am

I am a single mom, I need this book

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78 Alyson LaBarge December 4, 2007 at 10:07 am

Oh I am right there with ya…anything that helps remind me realistically to BE the Parent is good by me!!

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79 Tiff December 4, 2007 at 10:13 am

Count me in!!!

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80 Kristen M. December 4, 2007 at 10:38 am

Although my own children are young, I’m the wife of a youth pastor and this book is one I’d like to read. I’ve heard the author speak at a conference and was impressed with her research and also her passion. Thanks.

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81 Christy December 4, 2007 at 10:41 am

Sounds great

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82 melissa December 4, 2007 at 12:47 pm

Oh wow! I really want to get inside my almost teenager’s head! Where has my little girl gone? She’s still great, but she’s so……different……

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83 Jen December 4, 2007 at 1:49 pm

I would love to read this book!

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84 FENICLE December 4, 2007 at 1:50 pm

I read another review of this book & it sounded great!! I would love to win a copy :)

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85 Wendy December 4, 2007 at 1:51 pm

I would love this book! Thanks for a great review.

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86 Teresa Mooney December 4, 2007 at 2:16 pm

sounds great

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87 Rachel December 4, 2007 at 2:22 pm

Sounds like a fabulous must read!! I hope I win! Thanks for the heads up either way!!

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88 Amy R. December 4, 2007 at 4:04 pm

This sounds really interesting!!

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89 Melissa December 4, 2007 at 7:43 pm

Sounds like a great book. Please count me in!

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90 badsheep December 4, 2007 at 11:02 pm

One entry for me please.

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91 Delilah Miller December 4, 2007 at 11:29 pm

I’d love to win. Thanks.

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92 Lorena Alberdin December 5, 2007 at 12:39 am

I would love to read this book.

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93 themommie December 5, 2007 at 2:55 am

I love to read and would love a copy of this book….themommie

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94 kelly crocker December 5, 2007 at 7:51 am

cool

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95 das December 5, 2007 at 9:07 am

sounds interesting. sign me up! thank you

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96 JewelsHud December 5, 2007 at 10:24 am

I started her For Women Only book and loved it but had to return it to the library – I’d love this one – as I’d have more time to read it – hard to fit reading in with toddlers!!

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97 Kristie Noguera December 5, 2007 at 3:15 pm

Right up my alley. Thanks

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98 Kathy Conley December 5, 2007 at 3:44 pm

This looks like one I need

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99 Pamela White December 5, 2007 at 4:09 pm

I’m always looking for good advice

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100 Tracy Becker December 5, 2007 at 6:58 pm

Sounds great!

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101 Shaun Wallner December 5, 2007 at 8:23 pm

These sound like some great books!

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102 Valerie Mitchell December 6, 2007 at 2:25 am

fab

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103 Amy December 6, 2007 at 10:16 am

Please enter me!! :)
Thanks!
Amy

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104 Timothy Sternberg December 6, 2007 at 11:36 am

Looks like a great book!

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105 Judy Aschenbrenner December 6, 2007 at 12:36 pm

I have one teen, one tween, and 2 7 year olds…this book is needed in our house!

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106 Vanessa December 6, 2007 at 12:51 pm

I’m buying “For Women Only” right now. I’ve been looking for a good relationship book. I could probably use “For Parents Only” too!

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107 Alberta MacDonald December 6, 2007 at 4:07 pm

I would love a copy. Good luck to all.

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108 Doreen December 6, 2007 at 5:54 pm

Sign me up! Books that will help me with parenting I definitely need!

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109 Monique December 7, 2007 at 12:37 am

Sign me up!

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110 Daniel Hatt December 7, 2007 at 12:24 pm

THIS IS NICE

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111 Rick December 7, 2007 at 2:09 pm

My wife and I really enjoyed the “For Men Only” and “For Women Only” series.

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112 LivingforGod December 7, 2007 at 4:09 pm

Please count me in. Thanks!

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113 Eva December 7, 2007 at 5:51 pm

let me in…

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114 philip halter December 8, 2007 at 6:03 pm

enter me please

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115 Laura December 8, 2007 at 8:47 pm

Don’t count me in as I have this book.

Just wanted to let you know I blogged ya: http://laurawilliamsmusings.blogspot.com/2007/12/monday-edition-of-contests-galore.html

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116 Kristie Noguera December 8, 2007 at 11:09 pm

I need this!

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117 Samantha Pruitt December 9, 2007 at 3:19 am

what a great book!

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118 Sylvia Porter December 9, 2007 at 3:20 am

awesome!

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119 Karen Matlock December 9, 2007 at 9:46 am

please enter me!

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120 Angela Ponder December 9, 2007 at 7:45 pm

This would be so nice to have!

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121 Nicole December 9, 2007 at 9:52 pm

I love books that really make you think in life. Count me in!

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122 Heather C December 9, 2007 at 10:21 pm

Need this for my 2nd grader who seems to think she’s 17 years old! Ugh!

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