5 Minutes for Books — Beyond the Mommy Years

by Jennifer Donovan

Most of us are right in the midst of the Mommy Years–changing diapers, shuttling to school and sports, hosting sleepovers, helping with homework, or encouraging independence. However, some of you have entered that empty nest stage of life, and for others it may be on the horizon for you. Guess what? It’s not so bad. There is a good life awaiting all of us Beyond the Mommy Years. In her insightful and hopeful book, Carin Rubenstein takes a candid look at women’s lives after the children have left the nest. If you are facing this, or currently in the midst of it, this book will encourage you. If you are interested in sociology or women’s studies, you might find it a compelling read. Even though my oldest child still has eight more years of school left, I enjoyed this book for many reasons:

  • It encouraged me that losing my children will not mean losing my life or identity, but will perhaps be the start of some of the best and most defining years of my life.
  • I took down some advice about ways in which I can make sure that my child will be ready to live on her own successfully when the time comes, and I will be ready to let her go (teach her to do laundry, send her to sleepaway camp, expand my life now).
  • I was reminded to continue to make my marriage a priority, since it will be what remains after my children leave home.

If you fear this change in your life no matter how far off it is, this book which opens with the chapter entitled, “There’s no Such Thing as Empty Nest Syndrome,” will help ybeyond-mommy-years.jpgou change your perspective. Dr. Rubenstein presents well-documented facts and studies proving that most women are actually their happiest in their fifties. Additionally, the case studies that she gathered through her interviews and a web survey help you to see how this change affects women from all walks of life: happily married, unhappily married, divorced, with careers, formerly stay-at-home moms, from all family sizes.

The publisher has donated two copies that can be sent to the U.S. or Canada. Leave a comment if you would like to win.

Congrats to the winners of last week’s books:

bebemiqui (comment 15) won the copy of Informed Consent

We have five winners of the Miffy personalized children’s book:
56–Deborah, 50–Amanda, 32–Caryn, 28–Emily, 39–Naomi



Email Author    |    Website About Jennifer Donovan

Jennifer Donovan has been a part of the 5 Minutes for Mom team since 2007. She writes product reviews, covers events, and manages the 5 Minutes for Books weekly column and website. She lives in Houston and blogs at Snapshot about life with her family.

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1 jenna September 17, 2007 at 12:16 am

Am I really the first one to comment? Wow! I’d love to win this and give it to my mom. Her youngest child (my youngest sister) will be going off to college next fall.

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2 Laura September 17, 2007 at 12:27 am

Sounds interesting. Count me in.

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3 Deanne September 17, 2007 at 1:56 am

Sounds like a great book….sign me up for a win!

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4 Elizabeth September 17, 2007 at 4:27 am

Wonderful. Count me in, please.

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5 Carey September 17, 2007 at 6:47 am

I am really interested in this book. As i watched my mom struggle with the empty nest syndrome, i am determined not to do the same. thanks for the review of this book.

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6 Beth September 17, 2007 at 7:08 am

sounds like a great book that all Moms will eventually need!

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7 Michelle September 17, 2007 at 8:18 am

It seems like all too quickly my children are growing up and will soon be leaving home. I am already wondering what things will be like when it is just me in my house by myself each and every day after spending every moment with my children around me. While I know that changes and certain feelings are not to be avoided, I am looking for whatever tips and advice I can find to avoid experiencing a severe case of empty-nest syndrome.

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8 Mama Zen September 17, 2007 at 8:31 am

This sounds really interesting!

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9 Barbara H. September 17, 2007 at 8:41 am

Count me in, too. We’ll be transitioning into the empty nest over the next few years.

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10 Capturing Today September 17, 2007 at 8:51 am

Sounds like excellent reading!

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11 Shannon September 17, 2007 at 8:53 am

Count me in!

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12 Lynn September 17, 2007 at 11:05 am

This book sounds wonderful. My sons are both off at college now, and we miss them a lot. But life is still good as we are all getting used to this stage of life.

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13 Stephanie September 17, 2007 at 11:24 am

I’d love to win this book to read – and then pass it on to my mom. Thanks for the opportunity!

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14 bebemiqui September 17, 2007 at 11:58 am

yeah, I’m excited. Do you need my info?

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15 Carrie September 17, 2007 at 12:36 pm

I’m already crying about Kindergartin, let alone when they leave the nest for good. :(

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16 Jen E September 17, 2007 at 1:01 pm

Well, I’m quite a ways away from this but judging by how much of my life revolved around my children, I think this book would be good to help me start preparing NOW!!!! Thanks!!!

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17 Jenna September 17, 2007 at 1:27 pm

Sounds interesting to me.

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18 Andrea September 17, 2007 at 1:55 pm

Sounds great. Hope i win!

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19 Anastasia September 17, 2007 at 4:24 pm

It sounds wonderful! :) I’d love to check it out too :)

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20 Angela September 17, 2007 at 4:47 pm

Would like a copy.

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21 Laura September 17, 2007 at 4:47 pm

I’d like to read this!!

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22 April September 17, 2007 at 5:22 pm

Please count me in. I would love to read this book. Thanks.

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23 Lesha September 17, 2007 at 6:31 pm

Great contest!

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24 Lisa Brendle September 17, 2007 at 8:19 pm

Count me in please!

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25 Kandy September 17, 2007 at 8:58 pm

sounds like an awesome book! Sign me up too please :)

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26 Jill H. September 17, 2007 at 9:10 pm

Sounds like a great read!

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27 Linsey Knerl September 17, 2007 at 9:43 pm

sounds great! thx for the giveaway!

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28 Tricia September 17, 2007 at 10:44 pm

I would love to read this book.

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29 Adventures In Babywearing September 17, 2007 at 11:03 pm

Wow- this sounds like something that applies to me!!

Steph

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30 Jodi September 18, 2007 at 7:18 am

Sounds like a great book, I’m in!

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31 Karen Vogel September 18, 2007 at 7:30 am

Having hit the point where it looks as though there will be no more babies for me, I’ve been brooding about what’s next. Is all the fun gone? Will I be too old to enjoy doing new things once all my kids have grown and left the nest? I’d love to read this book and find out.

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32 Carin R. September 18, 2007 at 12:01 pm

Hey, thanks everybody! I’m the author of BEYOND THE MOMMY YEARS, and I really appreciate the kind words…
Please check out my website, http://www.DrCarin.com, to learn more about my book. You can even answer my new survey on marriage there!! (Please persuade your hubby to answer it too)

Carin R.

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33 ukrainiac September 18, 2007 at 3:37 pm

Sounds very interesting…count me in!

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34 Rhonda T. September 18, 2007 at 7:46 pm

It sounds like a good book – sign me up!

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35 Country Life September 19, 2007 at 9:18 am

I could really use a book like this. I have 3 boys. 14, 13, and 8 and am not looking forward to them leaving home.

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36 Myrna September 19, 2007 at 9:28 am

I’d really like to read this since my only daughter is all grown up and married with her own little boy

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37 Caryn September 19, 2007 at 9:28 am

I’d love to read this

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38 Bev September 20, 2007 at 12:15 pm

I would love to win.

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39 Sarah September 20, 2007 at 5:18 pm

I would love to win, thanks!! :)

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40 Christine September 20, 2007 at 10:10 pm

Very interesting…count me in!

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41 Christy September 21, 2007 at 11:54 am

Please sign me up.

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42 Doreen September 22, 2007 at 7:42 pm

Count me in too.

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43 Mickey Anderson September 27, 2007 at 2:52 pm

This looks like some really good reading for my wife. Would love to win it for her.

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