Spotlight on Antique Mommy

by Shauna

3.jpegAntique Mommy is an articulate, talented writer. She is one of the wonderful contributors at our new sister site, 5 Minutes for Parenting. She named her blog Antique Mommy in reference to becoming a first-time mom to a miracle baby at age 44. Her posts, while often light-hearted and humorous, are thoughtful and genuine.

As she discusses in How Did This Happen?, Antique Mommy has faced the death of a spouse, battled cancer, and struggled with infertility. But she has also had many joys and blessings in her life to celebrate! It was difficult for me to select which posts to link to because there are so many gems on her blog.

 

Whether she’s sharing tender moments with her son, Sean, remembering old friends, discussing life lessons she wants to teach her son, sharing funny kid stories, or musing about the “mystique of older motherhood,” Antique Mommy’s sometimes sweet, sometimes tart posts encourage, amuse, and inspire. Her essay Scarred, for Life was featured in the July 2007 issue of Good Housekeeping. Sometimes Antique Daddy includes his wisdom and perspective as well.

I enjoyed reading Antique Mommy’s answers and encourage you to visit her blog if it’s not already on your blogroll!

You’re an entertaining and thought-provoking blogger and an excellent writer. How have you developed your writing gift?

Thanks so much for those kind words, Shauna! I can only credit that to the exercise of writing something every day. Usually some little thing will have happened that day or the day before that I’ll write about, but if not, I keep an idea file and I go to that file and randomly pick something and make myself write about it. Some of my best stuff has come from that forced exercise of writing.


What can you tell us about your design blog, Inspired Spaces? Do you draw upon your background in design and art in your parenting methods?

I started Inspired Spaces on a whim one cold winter morning, which is how I do almost everything, and it drives my husband crazy because he’s an analytical/planning/research/spreadsheet kind of guy. Before my son was born, I worked with builders to design and build high-end spec homes. I loved it, and it was just tremendous fun, but when Sean came along I wanted to focus solely on my son. I realized that winter morning that I really missed talking about home design, so I started Inspired Spaces. I had no idea when I started the site that so many people would be interested. Unfortunately, that site is kind of languishing at the moment. I had some server problems and then some other projects surfaced that I’m really excited about, so presently I have no “spare” time to give to it. I am hoping to get back to it before the summer is over.

Parenting methods! Ha! You ask that like I have some sort of well-thought-out plan and philosophy. I pretty much wing it every day and see what seems right at any given moment. What I do bring to my parenting from my art background is that Sean and I do something creative every day–paint, draw, make up stories, interpretive dance at Wal-Mart or sometimes we’ll just take off with a sack and see what we can find and make a found-object sculpture. You can’t wait for inspiration to find you, you have to look for it. Go find it! That’s what I’m hoping to teach him–how to actively “see” the world–it’s just so beautiful it makes my eyes hurt.

What are your greatest challenges as an antique mommy? What are the greatest advantages?

My greatest concern is always time and the fact that there is so precious little of it. Most women my age have already had 10 or 20 years with their children. I will always, always wish to have had more time with Sean. He is so funny and full of joy, he could light up the dark side of the moon. I worry about staying healthy and agile, mentally and physically. I want to be there for him into his adulthood. The only advantage to being ancient is maybe that I’m at a point in my life where I don’t have to worry about money; the material things of the world no longer hold much allure for me. I have what I want and I want what I have, so I’m content with my lot in life. I think a contented mommy is good for children and other living things.


You have dealt with several major difficulties and painful times in your life. How have you persevered and kept such a bright outlook?

I would like to say that I’ve always had a strong faith in God and that it saw me through the difficult times, but that would be false. The long and complicated journey through grief brought me back to my faith rather than my faith bringing me through the grief. I am struggling with how to address this question because to put the answer into a paragraph would be to make it seem simple and I think that might be a disservice to anyone who is reading this and suffering and struggling. Having said that, like most lives, I’ve been both tragically cursed and mightily blessed. If you look at my life in the whole, the blessings have far outnumbered the curses, and that is reason enough to see that life is indeed sweet and good and that every drop, bitter or sweet, is precious.

–written by contributor Shauna



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1 Brandi July 16, 2008 at 7:38 pm

Loved this interview! Definitely one of my favorites!

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2 Angela July 16, 2008 at 7:53 pm

Wow. Thank you for sharing yourself with us.

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3 jean July 16, 2008 at 8:48 pm

Great interview! I love Antique Mommy.

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4 Carol Vincent July 16, 2008 at 9:37 pm

Antique Mommy – just discovered this “5 minutes” site and I’m enjoying it but I love “Antique Mommy”, too. I’m a Toronto, Ontario, Canada, mom and I find the differences and similarities between our two lives interesting. Keep up the great writing.

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5 Fiddledeedee July 16, 2008 at 9:48 pm

I absolutely adore Antique Mommy. But not in a weird stalkerish sort of way. She’s the real deal. And, oh my word, she makes me laugh.

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6 Robin July 16, 2008 at 10:07 pm

Finding Tina’s blog has been a recent delight; her maturity, candor, wit and poignancy set her apart in the blogosphere. Having met her in person only confirms what I’ve sensed in her writing, and I’m glad you decided to feature such a lovely person in this spotlight.

Well done, in just a few words :).

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7 Stephanie July 16, 2008 at 10:41 pm

Antique Mommy is a talented writer. She writes such heartfelt and beautifully crafted posts.

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8 bee July 16, 2008 at 10:49 pm

AM was one of the first blogs I ever read… and she’s still one of my favorites!

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9 Dawn July 16, 2008 at 11:09 pm

Antique Mommy is a gem – one of my favorite bloggers. Having her on staff was a wise decision.

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10 Erin Carrasco July 17, 2008 at 12:06 am

Great Article! Antique Mommy is awesome!

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11 Lisa July 17, 2008 at 1:18 am

Wonderful interview!

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12 Jamy July 17, 2008 at 3:10 am

Way to go Antique Mommy! I regret to say I don’t read every post. But the days when I feel I need a good laugh or a sweet reminder of the joys of motherhood, I know where to look. She is an amazing writer.

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13 Beverlydru July 17, 2008 at 8:22 am

Antique Mommy is one of my favorite writers. Thanks for the interview. Well done, well said.

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14 Joni July 17, 2008 at 10:31 am

One antique mommy to another you are doing great! Warning… It goes too fast. When you see an adult looking back and caring for you, it is scary. You never quit worrying about your little boy or girl. ENJOY!!!

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15 Antique Mommy July 17, 2008 at 2:38 pm

Wowee y’all. My spirits are soaring today on the currents of kindess. Thank you all so very much.

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16 Belinda A. July 17, 2008 at 3:40 pm

Antique Mommy is inspiring! – From another not-in-her-20′s mommy:)

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17 Alyson July 18, 2008 at 7:28 am

Loved reading her blog. Really, really good! I am soon to be an “Antique Mom” too (first timer, adopting, over age of 50). Thanks for spot-lighting her!

Alyson LID 01/27/06

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18 Renna July 18, 2008 at 1:34 pm

Great interview. I love Antique Mommy. I never miss reading her blog. She can find the heart of every matter, no matter how trivial the matter may seem!

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19 80smoviemama July 20, 2008 at 2:03 pm

I love antique mommy. I am fairly new to her blog but she is so much fun to read.

Congratulations to Alyson. Your life is about to change in the most profound of ways.

Thanks for spotlighting antique mommy.

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20 Larrisa December 5, 2008 at 10:08 pm

Dec 2008 Can’t locate AntiqueMommy anymore apparently she’s gone offline? Will miss reading her blogs :(

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