My latest post up at Guideposts is about my toddler’s tantrums…
The Two-Year-Old Tantrum
Getting to know what makes a toddler tick
“I got it!” My 21-month-old daughter falls on her back and holds my lip balm beyond my reach. Olivia is obsessed with lip balms and lipsticks, usually destroying every one she can find.
“Livvie…” I say in my stern mother voice. “Give me the lip balm, please.”
“No—it’s mine!” she refuses.
“Livvie, please give Mommy the lip balm,” I repeat.
“I keep it,” she insists, and the battle of wills begins.
Livvie won’t be 2 for a few more months, but you would never know it. Not only is she quite verbal for her age, but she can throw a tantrum worthy of a veteran 2-year-old.
Her latest trick is to scream a shrill protest that rises while her face turns bright red. She looks like her head is about to explode, and then she couples it was a fierce “I mean business” look in her eyes.
The first time she unveiled this new protest, I laughed out loud! She was so angry and so serious, all I could think was, Wow—this girl is going to have quite a temper!
Trying to prevent a wild red-face howl, I try out the “1, 2, 3” method on her.
“Livvie, you need to give the lip balm to Mommy or you are going to have a time out. One…two…” I pause and warn her, “Livvie…” And before I get to three, my testy toddler hands it over.
Shocked that it actually worked, I break into praise for her good choice and hug her.
As the mom also of a 7-year-old, I know all too well that you win some and you lose some. Besides, maybe Olivia is just going easy on me and saving her fiercest tantrums for when she actually does turn 2…
YOUR TURN: What about your kids??? When did your little ones unveil their strongest temper tantrums? Did their personalities as toddlers reveal their character as older children?…