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Twitter is hopping with people hating on Jason Mesnick, The Bachelor 2009.
I have a bowl of popcorn, a glass of Kahlua and I am trying to not get butter on my keyboard as I keep one eye on twitter and one eye on “life” unraveling on “reality” TV.
And I am not even a fan of The Bachelor!
But tonight, I got hooked with the madness of beautiful women rejected… and one man who couldn’t make up his mind.
And while The Bachelor watching masses rage about spoiled boy Jason who wants to have his cake and eat it too, and rally first behind Molly and then jump to pick up tossed aside Melissa, I am not shocked, or even surprised.
I mean come on!
Have someone date a bunch of people at once, in completely unreal circumstances, and then expect it to turn out in a healthy, tidy conclusion?
Even for people in the real world, choosing “the one” isn’t always easy. Sometimes people make mistakes or have second thoughts. Sometimes memories haunt and doubts overwhelm. Being “in love” is a feeling that guarantees nothing.
I just can’t believe this season finale of the Bachelor is the first time The Bachelor has freaked out and tried to take back his answer!
We aren’t meant to find life-long-love in a smorgasbord, tasting each tempting option before finally making our selection.
After such an unhealthy beginning, how can anyone ever recover from the betrayals enough to have a solid marriage?
No, the most shocking thing that has ever come out of The Bachelor enterprise is that Trista and Ryan have seemed to actually come out of the experience as “winners.”
So, while watching The Bachelor — After the Final Rose, I am not shocked that Jason Mesnick changed his mind.
I am just very unimpressed that he agreed to finish off the season by publicly dumping Melissa. Now, that was just unnecessary and completely uncool! Did they get a bonus for the extra “episode?” I think Melissa should get the biggest bonus!
But, I actually hope that Jason, Molly and innocent son Ty have a good future together. (And if they do, then I will write a post about being shocked!)
Because just as I hope that Melissa recovers from the experience, I hope each member of the Bachelor cast recovers from this cruel social experiment and moves forward to have healthy, real lives.
What about you? Did you watch The Bachelor? Are you furious with Jason?
Vanessa says
I am mostly disappointed that Jason Mesnick did the very thing he said all season he did not want to do – involve his son with women until he was 100% sure of which woman he wanted in his life. I think he turned out to be a jerk…not because he didn’t end up with Melissa, but because he chose her – and said he wanted to MARRY her – but then later said he only said what he felt “in the moment”. If I were Molly, I’d be a little concerned. And actually, I would think her parents would hate Jason MORE than they did her other boyfriend! She must be realy desperate to want to be with him – after seeing how he treated Melissa just minutes earlier. And the person I feel sorriest for is Jason’s son, Ty. Good Luck! But I won’t be surprised if we hear in 6 months that Jason is not with Molly either!
Jassie says
I think you could say this site is hating on Jason LOL
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pamela says
I was a Melissa fan from the start and was very angry how it turned out, proud how she handled herself giving him the ring calling him a B****** and walking off stage, that Molly how stupid is she he dumped her once he will again, BUT then I here it was all staged the batchlor people are dening it but I think its probably true, I loved that show but I will never be a fan again…..
Kathy W says
What you people are forgetting is that he had a 5 million dollar clause in his contract that stated if he did not break up with her on the air he would be sued for that amount of money. He was forced to do this..it was not something he wanted to do.
I have to give the mad credit for doing it now rather than later into the relationship. It took a lot of guts to do what he did. It is pretty obvious from seeing Jason and Molly together on the 2nd ATFR that they are deeply in love.
I feel sorry for Melissa but as she stated in an interview she and Jason and actually broken up prior to that. She knew it was coming. She wa in no means blindsided.
I wish Jason and Molly all of the best. They followed their hearts. Kudos to them for that.
Barbara P says
After watching the final Bachelor I was happy with Jason’s choice. Then I was shocked to hear they weren’t going to work out. After seeing them together for the last time I think I agree they were not good together and Jason did make a mistake. I am glad he realized it before they married. I am glad his son will have a mom and he will have a wife who isn’t sounding like a b. I feel bad for all three of them that this was so public, but they knew that ahead of time. I pray God’s plan is that they all live happy ever after.
Jamie says
I didn’t get to see the show, but I have heard about it non-stop from friends/internet news. It sounds like a really sad, unfortunate situation…Mostly for the girl who got rejected.
janice jernigan says
I have watched from the beginning of the Bachelor and I am so mad right now at Jason because we have all felt so bad for him and just feel in love with him all together and even tho he feels in his heart he did the right thing he should have known way before then and not done it on Public television. He could have been the person we thought him to be and just walk away and then call Molly on his own and left it that way. But to hurt anyone the way he did is unforgivable !!!
Molly is so sweet and I am sure he will do it again . What ever happens I only hope ABC does not loose ratings over hoe they managed things this time.
It’s time for something new and I think ABC deserves to do something on Television to make up for the pain and humiliation this has caused Melissa!
She should have the chance to return and be the next Bachelorette and It should be called Bachelorette’s Scorned!!!! Give her the show of a lifetime!!!She deserves it all!!!
Angie says
Yeah… I can believe I was sucked in to this stupidity. I don’t even watch the show. But that’s all I’ve heard about on every talk show and blog I’ve looked at, so I broke down and wrote a post about it on my own blog.
Katherine says
My mom and I LOVE the Bachelor – because it is so BAD! We laugh, we discuss, we guess… it is our girl time. Mom tapes it for me so we can watch on the weekend. Honestly, if Melissa did not make him happy, he needed to break up with her. Maybe his contract stated that had to be on the show.. she knew it was coming.. I felt bad for her. I wasn’t crazy about Molly b/c she is Daddy’s girl… maybe a big problem – and very “country club.” I loved Stephanie – hope she can be a bachelorette!
Anna Brown says
I know the Jason type – Molly should RUN not walk away from this Jerk as fast as she can – I heard her say last night that she was about to move to Seattle – BIG mistake!!
Jason has major problems – Molly beware!!!!!
Catherine says
I wouldn’t say I’m hating on him because I believe they both knew it wasn’t working out but I think he could have done things better. At least give the girls answers when they ask you a question. He didn’t have an answer for Molly or Melissa in any of these shows when they were asking him questions. I’m glad they did ask so he could be just as uncomfortable as they were.
I am a tad disappointed in Molly. He had his chance and he let her go but she’s willing to be his second choice and take him back. It would have taken a lot more than an “I’m sorry let’s get coffee” to win me back had I been the one kicked to the curb for the final rose.
Caitlin says
I heard the rumors before the show aired that what happened was going to happen – I mean honestly, it was the most class-less thing I have ever seen. I think it’s possible for him to have feelings for both gals, but I just wish that he had broken up with Melissa in private, and not on national TV. Or never proposed in the first place until he knew FOR SURE.
Ugh – this whole thing is nuts. I am excited for next season, because I love Jillian and wanted her to win from the beginning. She’ll make a great bachelorette!
Katie says
“We aren’t meant to find life-long-love in a smorgasbord, tasting each tempting option before finally making our selection. After such an unhealthy beginning, how can anyone ever recover from the betrayals enough to have a solid marriage?”
Great post! You made some really great points and I agree completely! How can we expect anything else but this sort of craziness?!
Maria says
I think the public dumping was very jerkish. It should have been done behind the scenes. I didn’t watch the Bachelor but my sister told me about it which of course peaked my curiousity so I watched the dumping online.
Your absolutely right. It’s a very confusing situation having all those choices and picking the “one for life” should take longer than a few episodes. I think the bachelor goes on 2-3 dates max. with each one before choosing.
Lana says
I loved your post! I don’t watch much reality TV aside from the Amazing Race, but my mom has been hooked on The Bachelor from the beginning. I get to hear all the updates from her. lol
Nothing else was on last night, so I flipped it on and it was on in the background while I was online. I have to say I was disgusted!
You’re not going to find THE one on a show like that and the lack of success this show has had proves it, but to dump Melissa on national tv? Wow. I don’t care that he later said she knew it was coming. She didn’t appear to know it to me!
I also hope that his son has been shielded from all of this. It really bothered me there was a child involved at all. I’m sure a few months down the road, he’ll be over Molly, too.
Amy says
Great post. I agree–I haven’t watched The Batchelor or similar shows. It’s not quite reality TV in my world. 😉
Tara B. says
I’m a fan….well, not really a fan, just sucked into watching trashy TV. I’ll admit it!! makes me feel normal…ya know? But I will say AMEN to your post….exactly what i was thinking and feeling…let’s get real people! This one might might have “un-fanned” me…i’m thinking i could spend my time doing something much more productive. Pretty pathetic.
Piera-Jolly Mom says
I’m not shocked it turned out that way, BUT I am pretty ticked off that Jason decided to embarrass Melissa on national TV! Totally tacky and uncalled for! Also, it’s so obvious that he’s been seeing Molly the whole time or a majority of the time. What woman would just take him back like that? That quickly? I don’t buy it-she was making out with him within minutes of Melissa leaving. Not cool.
Erica says
I haven’t been watching, but I definitely watched last night. I shouldn’t have been, but I was shocked by that ending and equally angry that he chose to dump Melissa unawares (well, at least partially unawares) on TV. The premise of the show is difficult for me, anyway, but that was just wrong. Argh.
Jen says
Yes, I watch the Bachelor, even though EVERY season I tell myself it’s the last one…but they get me hooked. I’ve seen all but one season. And even though I root for one or two girls and hope he chooses the right one at the end, I definitely agree with you and try to keep the perspective that this is obviously NOT the optimal way to choose a mate. It’s definitely a show meant to get ratings, and they will dramatize and use and abuse as they see fit. I sure hope most of all that little Ty comes out okay from all this.
Momma says
While I never expected his relationship with Melissa to last, I think is was really mean and hurtful of him to dump her on tv and tell her that he was going with the other girl. And then proceed to make-out with that girl 5 minutes after he dumped someone else! That is what was cruel. Not that he dumped her or changed his mind. It was just the way he did it. What a jerk. And Molly just must be dumb to think that it will turn out any differently for her. I will also be shocked if they end up getting married. Good post! I liked the way you wrote it.
Millie says
I think Jason made a fool of himself. I had so much respect for him but totally lost it last night. Fine, if you realize your not in love but don’t break someone’s heart on national tv. Big mistake Jason…
Scary Mommy says
Last night was the first night I watched and I thought it was sickening. But who knows what’s real and what’s just for ratings. Either way, he’s a tool and a major drama queen. Not my idea of a catch!
karen c. says
Seriously, dumping Melissa on public television? That was beyond dirtbag of him. Even if Molly did still like him, how could she take him back knowing that he’d just publicly humiliated Melissa that way? And if things weren’t working with Melissa, why didn’t he just break up with her before the show?
I’m never watching The Bachelor again. Okay, I didn’t really watch it this time either except during commercial breaks of Chuck and Heroes. But not even that next time. 🙂
Jendi says
I don’t watch the Bachelor, never have. The only reason I know anything about this is from Twitter. So they are increasing the show’s popularity in their hatred.
The real reason I’m commenting is because I wanted to express my whole-hearted agreement of your statement, “We aren’t meant to find life-long-love in a smorgasbord…”
Michele says
I started out the three hours, liking this guy. Thought he was cute and likable. My husband had a fit that I was watching the show and by the end of the three hours we both wanted to give Melissa a hug, and slap Jason. I think that having Molly say he was making a mistake, and having the girl from last year come back, screwed up his thinking.
Then how can Molly kiss him after knowing he just sent Melissa packing?!
My husband has me convinced that the show is staged and totally fake.
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Farmgirl Paints says
Yeah I have to admit I’ve been hatin’ on Jason Mesnick. It’s one thing to change your mind, but to humiliate the girl publicly was unnecessary. It will be a miracle if his new relationship can with stand the firestorm that is sure to be surrounding them on a daily basis.
carolyn says
I think he is a total jerk as of last night. I was sold on his good guy single dad staus prior to that. I really think Molly acted slutty in the last date. I may not watch ever agian.
I wish best to Melissa I think she is a good girl who got hurt deeply.
Denise says
I watched it, knew it was coming, and thing Jason has serious issues, enough said!
Staci says
I am not mad at Jason I am made at my dvr!!!!! I watched the final Bachelor but didn’t record the after the rose. I have however read all the stuff online and can’t believe he made the wrong choice I mean come on. It’s like he is asking for a do over in kick ball!!!!
Kelli says
I watch a lot of bad relaity tv, but the bachelor isn’t one of them.
I just don’t like the idea of fidning the “one” in a couple of weeks with people that producers put together because they would cause drama on tv.
Liz says
That guy is a tool! Those were some big crocodile tears he was sheading. It did make for some great tv watching though. I think everyone that decides to be on that show deserves exactly what they get. If you agree to be on it then you get what you get!
Lois says
Makes on wonder why he got hurt so many times!!!
He really needs some professional help. But then what goes around will come around back at him.
Debbie says
Personally, I can’t stand Jason. I think he is a complete phony. Every emotion was for the cameras.
I am not sure he is capable of an honest emotion. Reminded me a bit of Scott Peterson posing for the cameras. I feel for Melissa, although she put herself in that position. Hopefully, lesson learned for her. Molly is a complete idiot for even considering being with him at this point. I don’t watch Jerry Springer for a reason and I will never watch The Bachelor again for the same reason. It is nothing but trash television. I love reality tv and recognize the need for editing. In this case they (abc) were so determined to keep Jason as the good guy that they threw Melissa to the dogs. Jason cares for no one other than himself. I doubt seriously if he is even a very good father. He has gotten away with being a jerk by playing the nice guy for the cameras. Jason is so “perfect” he can’t even feel anger apparently. I am just sickened by the whole thing.
Snoop says
OMG. Jason is a hott mess. he picked Melissa to be his wife. Then he dumps her on TV.. and humiliates her.. in front of the ENTIRE WORLD… and then picks Molly. You claim to be such a wonderful dad. But do you think its healthy to bring different women around your son like that. One week is Melissa and now you picked Molly…. You need to just put yourself out there and date. No need to go on TV to find someone. Trust me you and Molly are not going to last.. Because maybe next week you might say.. OOPS.. im still in love with DIANNA!!! Yur a HOTT MESS!!! Mr. Mesnick…
km03 says
This is my theory on the whole show…I believe Melissa was an actor put on the show to steer people away from the obvious (of which girl he was really in love with). Why else would her family not come on the show and how else can you explain him just having a change in heart- it seems all too fishy and I think it was planned from day one. I am done watching reality tv because it really isn’t as REAL as we all want to believe it to be….I just can’t believe a decent guy would do that too himself or an innocent child just to get TV ratings and make them money- it is very sad and honestly do not care what happens with any of them!!
colleen says
I watched every episode of The Bachelor and was a huge fan of Jason. I too thought he might end up choosing Deanna instead of Melissa or Molly. I was elated when he chose Melissa but knew something would go wrong when there was a sequel coming. But I honestly could have forgive Jason if he’d chosen Deanna, but not Molly. Right from the beginning Molly claimed that she as the best kisser. Seems like Jason settled for physical attraction & lust instead of a long-term relationship. Molly never seemed sincere and is young, a buyer who will most likely do a fair amount of travelling in her career. But, we all know that when it comes to FALLING IN LOVE many of us do not follow common sense; even intelligent people follow their hearts and make big mistakes. It’s a lesson Jason will have to learn for himself. Too bad though because Melissa, Ty and Jason looked like the perfect family. But often life isn’t that easy and things simply don’t work out perfectly in a real world!!!! Feeling sad and disappointed……… Honestly don’t know what to expect on tonight’s show. Hopefully Jason might redeem himself a bit because last night I was calling him a bastard!
Erin Schuler says
I loved it! I felt bad for melissa but am hoping he finds love with molly! Its just like real life only they hype it up way more and make it look like way more drama!! I cant wait for tonight!
The Gang's All Here! says
Last night was the first time all season that I watched a full episode. And I was horrified. The clips of previous dates, the rivalries, the entanglements, etc. What on earth did he think was going to happen? What did those girls think was going to happen? Kissing and making out with ALL of them to get to the final rose?! Gross. And what ever happened to women holding themselves back a little bit? Sheesh, last night, I was embarrassed for all of them and horrified at what little Ty will have to face because of his father’s actions. None of it was reality, none of it was normal. It reminded me of why I never watch the show. And I won’t again.
Angie (Losing It and Loving It) says
Nope, not hating on him. He made a mistake, realized it and told everyone how he felt. I didn’t like that it happened on TV but it almost makes me think it was staged. I have watched many seasons and will keep watching. I’m a reality TV addict LOL
From the 1st show, I picked Molly and just knew that it would happen. Wish he would have just chosen her in the first place but oh well.
I’m just so thankful he didn’t take DeAnna back.
It’s Reality TV, expect the unexpected like they say in Big Brother ha ha
Heidi says
Amen!
Emily says
I completely agree. And it is amazing to me that after what, like 7 Bachelors and however many Bachelorettes, this is the first one to change his mind. No wonder one of them (with the exception of Trista and Ryan) have made it last! It’s easy to fall in love on a fantasy vacation in New Zealand!
Courtney says
So, I have never watched this bachelor and for some strange reason I turned to ABC after 24. I only caught the dramatic after the last rose or whatever they called it. And honestly, I thought it was so ridiculous. its either 2 things – a totally fake and all parties knew about this dramatic conclusion ahead of time or this guy is starving for fame and is a PIG b/c that conversation with the girl who was dumped should have been b/w two people and two people only not the entire world and then he makes out with the girl who was cast aside originally. As annoyed as I was, I couldn’t turn it off 🙂
AmyG says
Oh yes, I watched! And I’m hating on Jason, not because he changed his mind, but because of how he decided to let Melissa go. That was wrong & cruel! He could’ve handled that off camera. I feel awful for Melissa. I’m not a fan of Molly.
Sherri says
I am sooo furious with Jason! How in the world could he have done that to Melissa?! He knew how bad it felt with Deanna and here he goes doing it to her… ohh I just cannot get over it!
I am NOT a very happy camper with him right now! =/
DesignHER Momma says
I watched it and was grossed out by his behavior. Seriously how much did they pay him to do that to that poor girl? On tv, come on! It was all so very “jerry springer-ish” to me.
Jamilyn says
I don’t hate him. I think what he did took a LOT of courage. Who would really want to dump someone like that on national television?! He said on Jimmy Kimmel that he was under contract to bring his relationship to the ‘After the Rose’ regardless of what state it was in. He also said that they weren’t even together anymore so he was at no fault thinking about Molly.
I think he did what he had to do to follow his heart. He can’t lead Melissa on making her think he was still in love with her if he’s not. It’s only fair to him and Melissa that he makes the decision his heart is telling him to. You can’t live your life with regrets and if he had continued to date Melissa and Molly slipped away, he would have lived forever wondering about the “what-if” with Molly.
Melissa and him weren’t married, they had only been officially dating for a few weeks and there was no “forever” commitment between them. This happens all the time in real-life but people are getting so worked up over it just because it’s broadcasted on national television. I am proud of Jason for following his heart and doing what he thought best for him and Ty!
Frances says
To be completely honest I am so over this show in general. Obviously besides Trista and Ryan it just seem completely naive to believe that a relationship that begins this way can really last.
I haven’t watched this season (obviously) but I believe more than anyone the son is going to suffer the most because of this. Why would you let your child witness this? Just doesn’t seem right to me.
Mikki says
I kept telling my DH that it was like watching a train wreck. We just couldn’t turn it off.
We didn’t watch it all season then watched it last night.
How does he explain this to his son? What kind of role model is he?
It’s just crazy, but I feel just as bad for wasting 2 hours last night watching it!!
Meg Munson says
I too tuned in last night and couldn’t believe what I was seeing! I did watch him on Jimmy Kimmel where he tried to explain himself more. It is just WAY too much drama for me:)
Melanie says
I am so over the Bachelor…You said it all very well!!!!
Bonnie says
Very well put! Here is my post http://wheredidthisallcomefrom.blogspot.com/2009/03/i-signed-on-to-vent-and-left-with-smile.html regarding this and I have to admit this is the very first (and last) bachelor I have ever invested time in and I think it was because I thought he was a good guy.
I just do not understand shows like this.
Hey it was all in good fun but I will admit I did get hooked.
Rebecca says
I didn’t watch it, but I did see all the updates on Twitter and read a couple “conspiracy theory” posts on it. The Bachelor has something new and crazy happen each year, but I’m with you and hope that if they want it, that Jason finds true happiness.
Multi-Tasking Mommy says
Ok, I’ll admit, I a total Bachelor fan–always have been. I don’t know why, especially since we know that most of the relationships don’t work out.
People make mistakes. I get that! What I don’t get why he did all of that on National televison! I thought he was a decent guy, now I’m definitely wondering…
casual friday everyday says
I’m not hating. I don’t fault him. I think someone that realizes they made a mistake and decides to live a life with no regrets is my kind of person. Sure, he hurt Melissa. He hurt Molly too.
Hello, this whole situation was set up so that TONS of people would get hurt. And in the end, this was about HIM and how HE wants to find love and HE gets to be the person in power to do so. These women took that chance. The chance of getting their heart broken.
Of course it was horrible for Melissa, but she’ll move on. Just like if he ends up not working things out with Molly she’ll move on.
But, I don’t hate people for such petty reasons. Someone I don’t even know. It takes a lot more than a dude on TV who dumped two girls to make me hate.
And I’m not done watching the show, either. I think Jason is a good guy who didn’t know which way to go… the fun chick or the chick he could be stable with forever. He chose the fun chick, realized he made a mistake and such is life.
Nell
Dianna says
I am so over Jason. I think he is afraid of commitment. I mean come on. You can’t kiss around/sleep around with all these beautiful girls and not think about them again. I feel more for Ty and Melissa. I was so hoping that Molly would ditch him for being his second choice. Molly deserved better than that. Melissa deserves better than being dumped on tv in front of millions of viewers. I never have watched the bachelor before but this was so addicting that I couldn’t help it. Why couldn’t they have done it quietly and then of course they had to add drama by bringing Dionna back into the picture. I mean he didn’t like being a second choice. Why should anyone else. I think Jimmy Kimmel nailed it when he had him on the show last night. He said “I hope you get married, But I don’t think you will.” I know it was for laughs but I think he is right. But that is MHO.
Linda S says
I was SHOCKED to say the least. I believe I really expected him to choose Deanna in the end. I figured when she came back to tell him she had made a mistake that he would confess his love for her and they would ride off together into the sunset. Melissa was my choice from the beginning and I was appalled by the way he could just write her off like old news then warm right back up to Melissa. History will repeat itself and they won’t work out. I still believe he will eventually end up with Deanna as it should have been in the beginning!
brandy w says
i never watched any episodes this season but i was hooked last night. so heartbreaking for melissa, but you saw it coming the way he reacted when he let molly go. part 2 is tonight and i’m definitly going to watch
melissa l. says
I like the well-put way that you wrote this post. After reading tons of updates on FB, I must admit that I was curious, even without watching the show.