Tonight I made a good parenting choice.
I ignored my daughter.
Just as I was serving out a kid-friendly, yummy dinner that I know from past experience she loves, 3 year old Julia decided to declare, “No food for me!” She erupted into a tantrum and ran into the playroom screaming and crying.
My patience was at negative 10, and I felt like yelling and forcing her to eat her food. But I knew that wouldn’t work anyway and it would take a lot of energy. So I did nothing.
I sat and ate my dinner without her.
Sophia stared at me from her ultra-saucer wondering what the fuss was and I just quietly ate my dinner. (My husband is out of town, by the way.)
Soon Julia began to move her tantrum closer to me. I assume hoping that would get a response. But still I sat quietly eating.
A few minutes later, I knew I had won. She changed her tantrum’s focus from not wanting to eat, to wanting me to pick up the food she’d spat on the floor. (Whenever she’s decided to end a tantrum she transitions to another issue which is more easily resolved.)
And yes, soon after my little munchkin was eating her dinner.
So tell me… do you ever ignore your kids?