What Really Matters?

Before I married my husband I could have been labeled as having a “Type A” personality.  I was proud to say I was always on time, I gasped at the thought of clean laundry piled up on the floor, and my Blockbuster® movies were returned on time.  A year and a half later of being married, all I can say is at least he is still good looking.   Each Sunday we are literally running in the doors of church (we have no children, so please don’t feel sorry for us), sometimes the laundry is put away but most of the time we hunt for socks in a pile in the closet, and Blockbuster® has us on speed dial.

These annoyances drove me insane, and I took it out on my husband.   I spent many a quiet time with God trying to convince Him that my husband needed a BIG change.  ”Please just make him take two extra steps to the laundry basket to throw out his dirty clothes and that will make me happy”.  Little did I know that while I prayed for my husband to fix HIS problem, God was unwinding MY problems.  It is so easy to point the finger, and blame the spouse for the imperfections in a marriage.  I would consistently tell my husband that “If only you would…then our marriage would be great” (a pause would occur as God laughed).

As I sent those prayers of pleading for a fix in my husband, God continually sent me a scripture to change my heart.  One of my favorites is:

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud” 1 Corinthians 13:4.
Even as I write to you today, I have to stop and inhale this scripture reminding me to focus at what really matters.  What matters is that that we spend our precious time as husband and wife glorifying a truly righteous and holy God and not on the fact that a dish is in the sink and the Christmas tree was taken down at the end of January.

I encourage you stop what you are doing at this very moment and pray for your husband and allow God to remind you of what really matters in His marriage.

Loving my God,
Megan York, Guest Contributor

Megan York is newly married to her husband Jared where together they reside in Texas.  Besides being a small business owner, Megan has a passion for writing about the journey of having a faith filled marriage.  You can visit Megan at her blog, A Boy, A Girl and A Pug (www.aboyagirlandapug.blogspot.com).

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