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I think it’s great that we all feel free to share our #MomFail moments. Once we revisit the moment, whether it’s on Facebook, face to face with a friend, in an email or on a blog, it usually doesn’t feel so bad, especially if someone joins in with encouragement that they’ve done the same thing — or even worse! But as easy as some of that comes, I do think that there are deeper, hidden things that we don’t share.

  • I might share about the fact that I forgot to pick up my teen daughter after her club meeting at school, but do I share about the fact that when I’m focused on the computer, a book, or the television that I sometimes just forget her?
  • I might tell that I missed the orthodontist appointment that I had confirmed twice, but would I tell that I haven’t made an OB/GYN appointment in over two years?
  • I might be honest about struggles with getting my kids to do their homework, but would I be as honest about the awful, horrible, tone of voice that comes out during the “conversation” about it?

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It’s the talking — or the not talking — that plagues me with the woulda coulda shoulda’s. Whether it’s with a spouse or a child or a friend or a parent, there are conversations that are so difficult that we either avoid them altogether or botch them when we try.

When Tim (Domhnall Gleeson) turns 21, his father (Bill Nighy) sits him down for a very important conversation. He tells him that the men in his family have always been able to travel in time. Tim doesn’t believe him, but he gives it a try, using the method his dad describes. He thinks back to the night before, when he missed the opportunity to kiss a girl at a New Year’s Eve party at the stroke of midnight. He goes back and makes it right.

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In that scene, you can just feel his frustrations from the first time. She looks at him. He looks at her. Others all around the room are bringing in the new year with the traditional kiss, but Tim gives an awkward handshake. The disappointment on her face is palpable. And Tim is the kind of guy who is not only plagued with the missed opportunity to smooch, but I think he’s just as worried about her feelings.

Please click through to my review of About Time at 5 Minutes for Books, where you can read all of my thoughts on this lovely movie and see this scene in the preview.

Those are the moments that I wish I could do over, the ones where a careless word or action left someone doubting themselves. For example, last month I greeted a friend at Bible study and commented on her shirt, “You’re fancy today.” She got a thoughtful look on her face and said something like “I guess this is different than my plain solids and tailored clothes.” And then the next couple of times I saw her, she said something like “Back to my boring plain shirts.” It’s not a big deal. I didn’t crush her, and she certainly knew that I wasn’t being mean-spirited, but I wish I could zip back to that morning and just say “You look nice today,” not making any sort of comparison to what she usually looked like.

These offhand comments happen more than I like to remember, and they echo in my head. We can’t take back words, but I sure wish I could. And I can’t get a do-over to say omething like “I’m so sorry for what you’ve been going through,” when instead the awkwardness and lack of anything I think will help left me totally mute.

About Time is the new movie from filmmaker Richard Curtis (Love Actually, Notting Hill, Four Weddings and a Funeral), using his signature voice in the world of movies and television, giving audiences unforgettable characters who have alternately allowed us to laugh at our ever-so-human foibles and to share a tear at the extraordinary journeys that accompany our ordinary lives.

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  1. Martha C. says

    I wish I wouldn’t have commented on my daughters singing at church once. She won’t sing in church anymore. :(

  2. Tara says

    I have many things I wish I could do over, but I wouldn’t be where I am without them. I wish I wouldn’t react so strongly when things go wrong in my life.

  3. Rebecca Parsons says

    We have a hereditary genetic disease in my dads side of the family called Huntington’s Disease. Well I lost my grandma, dad, aunt and uncle all from this dreadful disease. I wish I would have had this talk that if my kids were to have kids they too could pass this on. But unfortunately I didn’t educate them enough on their choice to have kids without being thoroughly being educated about it. I am now going to be the proud grandma of 2 grand-babies in less than a month. However I still wish that our family wouldn’t have kept the fact that it was such a bad disease even when we were getting ready to all have families. Now I am educating my children as much as I can about it so that they make the right choice for them on having kids, especially if I end up getting this terrible disease.

  4. Marti Tabora says

    I wish I could do over the amount of time I spend with my son when my dad passed away, they were very close and I spent so much time trying to help my mom with her loss that I didn’t even think about the effect it had on my son. That would definitely be my do over.

  5. Amy Tolley says

    i have many things i wish i could do over but i dont dwell on the past i live for today and cherish each and every moment with my loved ones ty

  6. says

    there seems to be so many do over moments in my life but maybe the one I would do over the most is the day I decided not to continue my education

  7. Eileen Richter says

    If I could STILL have the very same wonderful children and would have been assured of this, I would have not married so young and would have started my education before rushing to be an “adult” so soon. I have the greatest gift of the most amazing 6 kids in the world, but I regret not getting the experience, honor, and self esteem I know a degree and job in the field I so would have loved would have given me. More confidence. Less stupid decisions later.

  8. says

    Oh my goodness, you wouldn’t have enough time to hear all of mine. Almost everything I’ve said or wrote to my daughter the last 2 years probably should be done over because she still won’t talk to me. :(

  9. says

    There is a part of me that wishes I could have done a few things differently in my past relationship, however looking back on the relationship several months later, I know the things I did and said in those 2 1/2 years had to be done and said for me to be where I’m currently at right now!

    No regrets :)

  10. Maria Iemma says

    I wish I had stayed in touch with a friend that moved across the country. Instead we both got busy and it’s been so many years…

  11. Sunnymay says

    I might like to rewind and do over my last pick-up for my youngest adult son at the Akron Canton Airport. He landed 30 minutes early having a tailwind and I was in route, but didn’t look at my phone which was on vibrate until 10 minutes from the airport. I caused him needless worry about being stranded and he scolded me for 10 minutes until I told him, “I heard and was sorry,” a few times.

  12. Tammy S says

    I wish I could do over the times when I have lost my temper with my kids. I wish I had taken a deep breath and calmed down before I spoke.

  13. Susan P. says

    I wish I had gone over to see my mom more when she was going through cancer treatment but she didn’t tell us and didn’t want us there. My dad could have used the help.

  14. Jill Myrick says

    I wish that I could go back and redo the date that put me in an abusive situation for nine years,
    I would tell him to go away that I have no interest in dating him.

    jweezie43[at]gmail[dot]com

  15. rose paden says

    I honestly do not want to redo anything that i have done! My choices I have made and things that I have said made me who I am today. I’ve made mistakes, but who hasn’t! I just look at it as a learning process not something you should burden yourself over.

  16. heather c says

    Now that I’m a parent, I wish I could go back and call my mom “when I arrive” all those times and keep her from worrying.

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