Comments on: I can’t even listen to a cool song anymore!

By: chrissy

chrissy — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:32:48 +0000

Have no fear! Great music is here!! I found this blog and almost died wanting to tell every one of my momma friends that this is the real deal. our favorite rockers (i.e. queen, aerosmith, the cure, beatles ect…) turned into lullabies! This is the coolest idea and I just had to share! Please enjoy!

By: The Frugal Homeschooling Mom

The Frugal Homeschooling Mom — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 18:37:02 +0000

Here’s a link to my post, inspired by yours today. I totally agree with you!

By: Connie Walsh

Connie Walsh — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 06:21:11 +0000

I think the chill out tent is where people go when they have taken too many pills/drugs/mushrooms whatever. I think the 2 kids in the song died in the tent after they had OD’d.

I have two teenage boys and I don’t know how to handle the whole boy girl interaction thing. I don’t want to be heavy handed because I remember being driven to rebellion. I also don’t want to be permissive. Darn, I found it easy to be a mom when they were babies, toddlers, preschoolers, elementary schoolers, but high schoolers??? Hard stuff.

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 06:18:07 +0000

@OrganizingMommy – LOL… the song is about a couple of teenagers who went to a rock concert and took too many drugs. They ended up passing out and being taken to the “chill out tent” — which is just an area with doctors that give them medical treatment.

The kids get their stomachs pumped and get IV’s to clear their systems and then they wake up. They’re okay… they’re just messed up on too many drugs.

But my post was just using that poor choice of taking drugs as an example of the stupid and often dangerous decisions some teenagers make.

By: Erica

Erica — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 05:34:03 +0000

so I guess I hope to teach my kids to think about the consequences of their actions.

Oh and I work hard on showing them lots of love, encouragement and acceptance.

By: Erica

Erica — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 05:29:31 +0000

Well, I am not sure how I turned out the way I did. My home life was very hard as a tween/teen. I lived in a very emotionally abusive home….with a lot of negativity. My dad pushed me to work hard and do everything well. I did a lot of performing as a teenager. I remember after concerts, I would watch my friends get hugs from their dads and hear that their parents were proud of them. My dad would just point out to me where I faulted, and what I should work on.

I was bullied a lot in school from 4th grade on. I had very low self-esteem. I only had a few friends. I really think music and God is what kept me from ever desiring to try drugs, drink have an eating disorder, have sex.

I had very strong morals. I became saved at the age of 12, after attending a concert with a friend of mine. In high school, I was very involved in my church youth group..even though my parents were not going to church and insisting to me that I was in a cult.

I sang a lot…music made everything better….and I felt God’s presence in my life. I wanted to live a life that would be pleasing in His eyes. I also thought about my future children. My boyfriend in high school, who is now my husband, and I were very serious. But I waited to have sex with him..because I knew I could never ask my kids not to have sex in high school if I did.

So I guess I always weighed the consequences of everything..from how it would affect me in the present, how it would affect me in the future, and how it would affect my relationship with God.

Anyway, that’s my novel for you!

By: Organizing Mommy

Organizing Mommy — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 04:02:57 +0000

Quite honesty, I don’t get the video. These kids have made bad decisions and that’s why they are in the chillout tent? Are they dead or just hospitalitzed? Sorry to be so dumb.

By: Carole Martin

Carole Martin — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:21:25 +0000

I really struggle with this! I too was blessed to be raised in a Christian home, going to summer camp, surrounded by good Chrstian friends. I too skipped many of the pitfalls – never touched drugs, wasn’t a partier, could stay out until 3 AM but not be getting into trouble. But I really want this for my kids too. I stuggle with how to raise them in a Christian home and instill in them these ideals. I think this is one of the areas we just need to lean on the Lord to guide us, and for us to trust in him that he’ll lead our children straight.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:07:18 +0000

Though I wasn’t a Christian until after high school, I avoided those teenage pitfalls simply because I wasn’t interested in doing those things. Now that my kids are 12 and 9, we have to start thinking about the teenage years. We homeschool and do everything as a family. The kids read their Bibles a lot and learn from the Proverbs and other passages about what to do or avoid in life. Finding a good church and surrounding ourselves with godly friends are also at the top of our list.

By: Jennifer, Snapshot

Jennifer, Snapshot — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 21:24:18 +0000

I was exactly that way too Susan! I DO hope that my kids will have as good a head on my shoulders as I did (although there are things that I hope they will avoid!!).

I have a strong faith now, but in high school I was never sure why, but I think it’s the self-confidence thing, which I’m also trying to develop in my kids.

Great post!

By: Little Austinite

Little Austinite — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 19:36:01 +0000

I stumbled upon your blog while looking for parenting blogs, and I found this post to hit right at the heart of something that my girl friends and I were discussing one Moms Night Out. I too have never felt compelled to do anything “wild,” especially not in high school. A good bit of that might just be inherent in my personality, but a lot of it is the unconditional support from my parents, extended family. A good group of friends was helpful too. My parents were strict, but never in an overbearing way, enough for guidelines of what they expected as good behavior. I find myself parenting my kids in the same way.

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:44:49 +0000

I’m a lot like you actually – I was very God-focused as a teen and am happy when I look back. Not that I didn’t make mistakes, of course, but as a whole I went unscathed. I was also homeschooled and loved it.

I don’t really have any plans yet when it comes to helping my daughter avoid teenage pitfalls, but being open and honest, giving her a secure place at home, and not filling our house with movies and attitudes that encourage sins that ruin people’s lives will be some of our plans of action. I won’t expect her to be perfect, but will be praying for her constantly as she grows up.

I honestly haven’t thought that far yet so I’m finding it hard to articulate. lol Great post!

By: Grissell

Grissell — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:10:20 +0000

Being the oldest of 4 girls, I was the first to do everything and for my parents to take notes on what not to do next time.

I was actually a good kid and a leader which scares me to death with my 2 boys who are 15 & 14 because they are followers. I worry every minute of the day for them. They are great kids but I feel they are TOO trusting and fearless.

My parents were really strict and I thank GOD everyday for that because my friends did NOT. The thing they did wow and for fear & respect of my parents I didn’t drink , didn’t experiment with drugs, or smoke. it wasn’t until age 29 for me that I really started to enjoy a drink now and then with my girlfriends and family.

My parents weren’t really religious but we did categorize ourselves as catholics but never went to church. But I think with the strong family values they instilled in me I can try to help my boys through this thing CALLED high school and peer pressure.

By: Patty Reiser

Patty Reiser — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 16:49:00 +0000

It is indeed scary to be raising children up in society today. My daughter turned 16 this summer. I wish she was still three at times. Parenting a teenager has been one heck of a roller coaster and I still have a few years to go with my daughter. And my son is 10 years behind her.
Wishing you a scent-sational day!
Patty

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 16:01:21 +0000

I PRAY that my kids do not go through most of what I did at a teen. Some not within my control (family alcoholism, mother battle with cancer) but many that were. I believed in God then but wasn’t yet a Christian with a relationship with Christ. As I bring up my kids in the faith I hope that this will prevent them from straying too far and feeling the hurts of teen pregnancy, substance use, depression and suicide attempts, all things I went through!