Tackle It Tuesday – Tackling….Frustration!

by Lolli

Tackle It Tuesday

This week’s Tackle is a little different than most of our weekly projects. Rather than a physical project, I tackled the frustrations I’ve faced this week while dealing with people who didn’t follow through with a commitment.

Without going into specific detail, I volunteered to help out with something at one of my kids’ schools. The project that I needed to complete depended heavily on other people getting their steps done first. I waited. I sent emails. I tried to contact people multiple times, but got almost no response. A few parents who had not volunteered for that middle step in the project tried to help fill in some gaps.

In the end, I had to make do with what I had personally done. Many times over the last few weeks I’ve felt like that young woman tugging at her hair. I’ve certainly felt like screaming, “I will NEVER volunteer for this again!”

The problem is that regardless of what I do or don’t volunteer to do, I will always run into people – at school, at work, and even at church – who will not follow through with their half of a commitment. My husband taught me a great lesson this week.

What they do is out of my control. What I do is under my control. Focus on what I can change and let go of what I can’t.

I have spent so much time these last few weeks frustrated with other people, but in the end that energy was wasted. My frustration was not productive at all. And for the record….with my husband’s help and expertise, the project turned out pretty awesome (if a little bit short because of lack of input from others).

How do you deal with frustrations like this? Any tips to avoid them altogether?

 

Calling All Tacklers!

We’re looking for YOU – guest bloggers to post about your own tackles right here. If you are interested in showing off your tackles (we all need some tips and ideas!) then send a quick email to lolli.5m4m at gmail (link in the About Lolli section at the bottom of the post). Thanks for your inspiring tackles!!

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We are Tackling Our To-Do Lists Together and making housework bloggable — Each week on Tuesday, we are posting before and after pictures of a project or trouble area that we tackled this week.

Find out more about how Tackle It Tuesday began.
The project can be little or big – whatever you want.

Basically, Tackle It Tuesday is about giving ourselves incentive, deadlines and satisfaction in tackling all our tasks — whether household or otherwise.

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Written by 5 Minutes for Mom managing editor, Lolli. You can find me blogging at Better in Bulk and tweeting at @1momof5.

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Lolli is a busy mother of five kids, ranging in age from 8 to 16, photographer, and author of Better in Bulk. Her blog has a little bit of everything – parenting, life in a large family and photography with a central tie-in: Bringing moms together to learn, connect, and enjoy life. Connect with Lolli on Twitter (@1momof5) and on Facebook.

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1 jobr February 28, 2012 at 4:58 am

Good blog post and i am totally agree with this thought – “they do is out of my control. What I do is under my control.”

Thanks

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2 Susie's Homemade February 28, 2012 at 8:04 am

I volunteer ALOT at school and I always run into this. I go in assuming people won’t do their part and am pleasantly surprised when they do.

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3 Heather Stephens February 28, 2012 at 12:01 pm

My husband and I have been putting off taking a family vacation because of our financial goals for too long so I purchased tickets this weekend and realized the reason we kept putting it off was our fear of financial stress. I can’t change the economy, but I can change how I choose to think about it as it relates to my life and I can let go of a work first play later mindset that holds my family back from affordable fun. :)

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4 Barb February 29, 2012 at 10:13 am

My post this week is about the spring garden preparations that I’m doing to get ready for planting snap peas, etc. on St. Patrick’s Day. It’s always a big job to prune the plants, and I can’t delegate it to anyone else except my dh. However, I’m focusing on doing 30 minutes at a time, or filling up the trash barrels in time for trash day (rose prunings don’t go in our compost).

I volunteer at school a lot, and I’ve had to work with others over the years in a variety of ways. It can be extremely frustrating! For example, I loaned my mil a cd of DS8′s kindergarten graduation which I need back for his First Communion Album. She can’t find it! I’m not even sure she even looked at it. I’ve asked her about it for almost a year. I even tried not to loan her the original in the first place. Finally, I asked the computer teacher at school for another copy and had it in a day. Honestly, I’m still a bit miffed at my mil, and I’m working on getting over it because I was able to get what I needed another way.

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5 Lolli March 1, 2012 at 3:59 pm

Oh no! I am so sorry you (she) lost those pictures but glad you found another source to get them. Yes, frustration for sure!

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6 Daly February 29, 2012 at 1:06 pm

I go absolutely crazy whenever I’m in the situation that I depend on somebody else’s work!

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7 Lolli March 1, 2012 at 4:00 pm

I’m gad I’m not the only one. I’m just trying to be better. :)

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8 Fields Zoo April 12, 2012 at 12:46 pm

I feel like this a LOT with my dh. He is what I call the “fun dad” meaning he’s great for distracting the kids when I need to get something done but unfortunately not terribly responsible. I do not have words for how frustrated I feel sometimes!

I’m afraid I can’t give you any great tips but I can definitely empathize and tell you that you are not alone!

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