What Drag Queens, Rosie and an 11 Year Old Boy Can Teach Us About Parenting

by Susan

Parenting lessons are all around us. Sometimes we might feel a little uncomfortable with the source, but that’s when we really need to listen.

When I saw this 11 year old boy named Ben and his fabulous mother show the world how accepting and supportive all parents should be of their children, I almost cried.

Ben is an 11 year old aspiring fashion designer whose role model is the famous drag queen RuPaul. Ben and his mother shared their story on the Rosie Show and were surprised to meet RuPaul.

If only every child felt the love and support that Ben has been given from his family as he pursues his passion for costume design and his love for a reality TV show about Drag Queens.

I love that we are living in a time when Ben can feel open to express himself. While sadly he still is bullied at school, Ben is able to be a voice and example for change. I believe his courage and determination will help teach parents and children to celebrate their individuality.

But we’re not there yet. Ben shouldn’t be bullied for being different. No one should. As parents, we must take this mission seriously so that as our children grow they stop the pattern of bullying and discrimination. Our job is to model love and acceptance as we teach our children to respect EVERYONE for who they are.

Please watch and share this video clip from the Rosie Show.

Let’s spread Ben’s message of self confidence and let it inspire us all.


Written by Susan Carraretto, co-founder of the Mom Blog 5 Minutes for Mom.
Talk with me: @5minutesformom and Facebook.com/5minutesformom.

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Susan Carraretto and her identical twin, Janice Croze, created 5 Minutes for Mom in 2006. Susan loves all social media, but her top addiction these days is Pinterest. She recently published a children's book titled "The Pest Detectives" which you can download now in digital format for free.

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{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Meryl Neiman January 5, 2012 at 1:48 pm

Thanks for this post! I thought it was beautifully written on an important topic. I shared it on my Facebook page.


2 Susan January 5, 2012 at 3:18 pm

Thanks Meryl!


3 Kathi Lake January 5, 2012 at 4:52 pm

Powerful!! As someone who is a bit on the odd side as well, it really resonated with me. Kudos to his mom, his family, and Ben himself for being who you want to be, and doing what you want to do without listening to the voices telling you that you can’t.


4 tracey just another mom January 8, 2012 at 9:13 pm

Oh, I just love that kid and I LOVE his parents. Go Ben! If you are this strong and motivated now, I can’t wait to see what you are like as an adult!


5 Victor February 20, 2012 at 11:49 am

What an amazing story. Ben is absolutely adorable and his parents are absolutely beautiful people for encouraging their son to become whatever it is his little heart desires!


6 Elinor May 17, 2012 at 4:14 pm

Hi there! This post could not be written any better! Reading this post reminds me of my old room mate! He always kept chatting about this. I will forward this post to him. Fairly certain he will have a good read. Many thanks for sharing!


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