“That’s Not Fair!” Checking in With the Sisters

“That’s not fair!” – a phrase I have heard from the mouths of my children plenty of times.

Sometimes I agree with them – “That’s right sweetheart. It’s NOT fair. But it’s life. It’s part of learning and growing.” This lesson, illustrated so beautifully by Barbie on our sister site, 5 Minutes for Faith, is one that we all need to learn, no matter our age.

“That’s Not Fair!”

As a mom, I sometimes hear certain statements made by my children that could rattle my nerves. One of those is the beloved “that’s not fair” statement. As a parent, it is my responsibility to teach my children about fairness. Even so, to a child, almost everything that goes against what they desire is unfair. At least in my household it is. If something doesn’t go their way, it’s automatically not fair.

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“Mom, why does sissy get to stay up later?”
“Because she’s older.”
“That’s not fair!”

“Mom, can you buy me a candy bar?”
“No. You haven’t had dinner.”
“That’s not fair!”

When my children do not get their way, they often leave frustrated, with arms crossed and a frown on their face. How many times have I felt like I deserved something from God, only to leave disappointed, pouting and stomping my feet along the way. I may even have gone so far as to say, “that’s not fair!” I have been guilty on more than one occasion in thinking that I could do something, or have something, just because I felt like I deserved it. When God closed the door, I immediately became disillusioned and discouraged. And I got mad at God. Of course I never would tell Him. But then again, I forget that He knows my thoughts before I think them….


Recap written by 5 Minutes for Mom managing editor Lolli. You can find me blogging at Better in Bulk and tweeting at @1momof5.


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