How To Help Children Understand Bedwetting Is Not Their Fault

by Susan

Understanding Bedwetting

If your child is having nighttime accidents, it is critical that you help him or her understand that bedwetting is not his/her fault.

But how?

  • Step 1. When your child wets the bed, do not react negatively in any way. You need to show that it’s no big deal through your body language, words and tone.
  • Step 2. Inform yourself of the facts about bedwetting and get advice on how to explain it to your child.
  • Step 3. Take simple steps to manage the nighttime accidents such as limiting drinks for two hours before bedtime and using a product like GoodNites® Underwear to stay dry even when wet.

I made two mistakes the other night.

First I didn’t notice that my 6 year old forgot to put on her GoodNites® Underwear and second I forgot to wake and take her to the bathroom at 10:30 pm as I normally do.

The result was her waking up wet and crying at 2:30 am.

I picked her out of the soaked bed, telling her I was so sorry for forgetting her GoodNites® and forgetting to take her to the potty in the night. I assured her it was no big deal as I took off her wet nightie, quickly rinsed her off in the tub with warm water and brought her into my bed with me (and her 3 year old sister who’d already woken earlier and come into my bed).

We all quickly fell asleep and — as is common with this quiet little girl of mine — she didn’t say anything more about it.

What To Say The Next Day?

I felt terrible for forgetting those two important steps and I really wanted to make sure she understood that the fact that she wets her bed is not her fault.

So the next night as the two of us were sitting on her bed about to start reading stories, I said in a really upbeat voice, “Oh good, you’ve got your GoodNites® on. Do you know that we’re so lucky that we can buy those these days. In the old days, like when Grandma was little, they didn’t have anything like that.”

Her eyes opened wide and her jaw dropped, “They didn’t? What did they do?”

I replied, “I’m not sure what they did. I guess maybe they wore diapers or their beds just ended up getting wet. And do you know what was really tough? Back then parents and doctors didn’t even understand bedwetting as much as they do now. Sometimes they thought it was the kids’ fault… that they just weren’t bothering to get up to go potty.

But, NOW the doctors know all about bedwetting and they make sure to tell all parents that it is totally normal and not anyone’s fault. Now they totally understand that tons of kids wet the bed — sometimes even when they’re teenagers — and they make this special underwear so kids can stay dry.”

We continued talking about it for a while and I could feel her relax even more.

I’m not sure that I said exactly the right things, but I could tell that our little talk helped. The wet sheets the night before ended up being nothing more than a good reminder to double-check before bed that she’s wearing GoodNites® and make the “sleepy-walk” middle of the night trip to the potty.

What About You?

Have any of your children struggled with nighttime accidents? How did you help them understand that bedwetting isn’t their fault?


Written by Susan Carraretto, Mom Blogger and 5 Minutes For Mom Co-Founder
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Disclaimer – We are working on a paid campaign with GoodNites® Underwear to spread awareness and information about enuresis, also known as bedwetting. I have not been paid to publish positive sentiments about the product.

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Susan Carraretto and her identical twin, Janice Croze, created 5 Minutes for Mom in 2006. Susan loves all social media, but her top addiction these days is Pinterest. She recently published a children's book titled "The Pest Detectives" which you can download now in digital format for free.

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